Appreciating who you have in your life now

Appreciating who you have in your life

If you follow me, you know that I am grateful for everything in my life. I have been through a lot and have hit rock bottom on two separate occasions and still get up and go on with a positive attitude and gratitude in my heart. 

I realized that I have to appreciate who is in my life now. I can not look back and keep grieving those who were in my life and, for whatever reason, are not now. God has shut those doors for a reason, and whether I understand the reason or not, I must keep the door shut.

The people who are in your life now are supposed to be there. We are all placed in someone's life to teach them a lesson, either for just a season or longer. I have had friends since I was 5 years old, and they are still here with me. I have had others who I thought would be with me for a lifetime who aren't anymore, but I have realized that this is life.

I love Tyler Perry's analogy of friendship to being like trees. Some friends are like leaves; they blow away with the slightest of wind. Some are branches; they are there a while, but many will break off during a storm. Some are your roots; they will be there, sometimes forever. Holding you up, keeping you grounded, making you feel secure in their friendships.

Yet, even then, some roots may be uprooted, and they will let you down. Even if they've been with you forever, because we all know nothing lasts forever.

There may be other reasons your friendships end; sometimes you just outgrow someone, and you may realize that you have grown and they haven't. 

They may still be stuck in the mean girl mode from high school. They may never want to grow or change, or they may be so stuck in bitterness and hurt that they can't open themselves up to change. Sometimes, their negatively will push you away, always having to listen to them complain when you are on a different level. Jealousy is a huge one, secretly hating on you for where you are now and how they are still stuck. 

Some you will realize that their ways just grind at you. Maybe they are heartless or so into themselves. Maybe they drive you crazy with their phones and constantly want to be the center of attention. It doesn't matter whatever the reason it was time for you to move on and you shouldn't feel guilty about it.

So today, my friends remember life is all about growing and changing. None of us stay the same because if you do, you'll become stagnant and die. We must all learn to go with the change, overcome our fear of the unknown, and keep it moving to the next level. Sometimes, some people will come with you, and sometimes you'll meet others along the way to help you through your next chapter. Either way, you must keep moving and growing with or without them.

"Be the change you want to see." 

@TreadmillTreats