The miscommunication between people

Tuesday Treadmill Treats The miscommunication between people This year has taught me a lot of lessons, see your never to old to learn something new! I reconnected with my old boyfriend and one of the biggest lessons I learned from that was that two people can see one event so differently. For years we both harbored resentments against each other because of that and when we finally talked 20 something years later we realized that it wasn't like we thought at all. Wow, what an eye opener, so when it happened to me again last week I again was shocked, yeah, yeah I am slow sometimes, do you read my blog? I went on a date with this guy on Friday night,we had been talking for about 7 months and I finally agreed to meet him. He brought flowers, wine and dinner, we went to the beach and had a great night, we said goodbye and he was following me back to the highway. So, I get on the phone with my girlfriend because I am so blown away with how he opened doors for me, what a gentleman he was and what a nice time we had. If you know me I am in la la land when I am talking on the phone , yes I pay attention to the road but not where I am, I have past exits by miles while on the phone! I thought he was behind me, it was dark and by the time we got to 95 I figured he had this. By Sunday he never called, I texted him and said I had a nice time, he answered him too. A week goes by and now I am pissed if you had such a nice time what no call, no text? What kind of shit is that? So my girlfriend says to me that I got big balls so call him and ask him and that my readers need to know the answer to this question "Why didn't he call" Yes, I write about all my dates, I am the Taylor Swift of blogging! So I did and it went something like this "I thought we had a nice time and then nothing? What's up with that?" ( you did just read I have big balls?) Him "Yes, I did until you ran off at the end of the date" Me: "ran off, I knew you had to be up really early for work, I was trying to not keep you up to late" Him:" by leaving me in the dust and immediately jumping on the phone to someone else" Me:" I thought you were behind me and I was telling my girlfriend what a gentleman I thought you were" Him: " I guess I am stuck in the friend department cause you didn't even talk about another date when you gave me a hug and pat on the back before you raced off" Wow, I didn't think I did that and looking at it from his point of view I could see how he could see it this way. I am thinking I was trying to get him home early because he gets up at 5 am and that I had one of the nicest times since I've been dating and he's thinking I am running off because it was a horrible date and I just want to be friends. Can we say miscommunication? What if I didn't call? What if I just assumed he was a jerk? What if he thought I was one, we wouldn't have known and we wouldn't have talked again. That would have been a shame. we both laughed and we will be going out again but it taught me a lesson, to never assume, to speak up and to look at things from other's point of view. So today my friends don't be so fast to judge or get upset because of miscommunication. Get it out, talk about it, don't let it get out of hand. www.treadmilltreats.wordpress.com