Learning a lot from people

Learning a lot from people 

I have to say I learn a lot from people because I watch and take notes. This is especially true when I don't want to be like them, I take extra notes.

Growing up my grandmother was the most negative and miserable person I had ever met and I realized that I never want to be like her, ever! So I took notes on what not to be. Every day I make it a point to be positive, to look on the bright side and be kind to people.

My ex husband and his mother live in a self induced karma, hating their ex's for moving on and being happy without them. 

Seeing them, so bitter and angry, I know I never want to be there in that space, so I forgave him and let my hurt and anger go.

I learned from my parents divorce that you can and should put your children first and do anything to make that happen. 

I try never to say anything bad about my girls father (Okay, I am human and occasionally I slip) but for the most part I never speak bad about him or even ask about him or his life. He should live and be happy just not with me and even though he talks bad about me, I still keep it moving.

I know someone who is a control freak, she is always telling her boyfriend do this or you should do that. Seriously? Are you his mother or his girlfriend? 

We were in the car and she wanted him to chant with her, so she said let's chant, he said not feeling it. She says "Come on, let's chant" he says "Not now"

She say again "Come on, do it" 

He doesn't answer obviously because he doesn't want to do it.

She goes on for the next 10 minutes "Come on do it, you know you want to, do it, honey do it, chant with me, do it, come on....."  

Another 16 mother fucking times I had to hear this,

before finally out of desperation, and I know just to shut her up, he did it.

Note to self never be like this, if you ask someone to do something more than 2 times it is pretty friggin obvious, even to a blind man, that they don't want to do it so leave them the frig along.

Omg! Seriously?? This is who I don't want to be like. Or jealous for that matter. My daughter's tattoo artist's girlfriend called him 30 times and I am not lying when I say 30 times during my daughter's tattoo. She doesn't trust him so every 10 minutes she is calling and checking on him. Bitch put a dam camera on his ass and let him do his job!

That tattoo took forever because of her insane jealousy. 

I don't have the time or the energy to become a warden for someone. I trust you until you give me a reason not to and when and if that happens, I'm outta there.

I refuse to worry myself sick on what you "could be" doing... Please, I have a life. I also raised my kids, I don't want to raise another so I'm not going to tell a man what he should or shouldn't do every day, especially 16 damn times! 

I know don't want to be bitter, like so many women I know because they were hurt by a crappie man and then say "All men are no good" 

I don't believe that, yes, there are a lot of shitty men out there but trust and believe there are many shitty women out there too.

I believe that life without love is not worth living and yes, I will try again and again until I learn better and until I find that diamond in the rough. But I will become bitter and angry about life circumstances that happen to all of us.

There is a woman at my gym and every morning she comes in and looks like she is smelling shit, seriously this woman has not cracked a smile in 3 years! How bad is your life that you're that miserable? Doesn't matter because I know people who have the trifecta of fucked up diseases and are still extremely positive, so your life can't be all that bad.

I have learned more in the last 10 years than I have in my whole life because I am open to learning. I want to become a better person and so I try to see things, to change things, to be open to learning how to do things differently.

So today my friends, I say thank you, to all these people as you've taught me who I don't want to be. You opened my eyes to traits I don't want to have and ways to change. My advice to you all out there reading this, is take a look around, check out how people treat others, check out their attitudes, and then take something from it. Take the good and take the bad and try to make yourself into the best version you can be and in the meantime I will keep on watching and learning a lot from people.

"Be the change you want to see"

  

"And just when the caterpillar thought his life over...he turned into a beautiful butterfly"

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