Stop carrying around old feelings into new experiences

Stop carrying old feelings into new experiences 

This is something I had to learn again recently. I always say we are never too old to learn new things, but only if you're open to learning. So many women I know have had bad relationships, and then they are poisoned to all men. Thinking all men are no good. They are carrying these old feelings into new relationships. I've learned that not all men are the same but this was only after I realized that I kept falling for the same type of men over and over and needed to change.

We do that in relationships, and we also bring this into all different situations. I was triggered not so long ago by someone in the workplace. The things they said to me trigger my PTSD. I felt as if I was back in my abusive marriage. I couldn't stop myself as all these feelings came rushing back. Their unkind words were mixed with all the things I heard for many years, and even though this was a totally different situation, the feelings were the same to me.

It got so bad that I knew I needed help, so I went back to counseling. There, I learned my triggers and how to know that this was a different experience that I carried these old feelings into. I learned coping mechanisms and how to not let myself get into fight or flight mode. But to be honest, I just decided to take myself out of this situation as I knew that even with what I learned, this was too much for me to deal with day after day. Let me tell you that it's okay to walk away. You can still love someone from afar. 

You must protect your mental health at all costs.

So today my friends, I am here to tell you that this experience has taught me that so many of us are bringing our past, our old feelings into new experiences and reacting to them the same way. Each experience teaches us new things if you are open to learning the lessons. But not every experience is the same, it's is just a reaction to your past. So don't judge, don't blame all men for the actions of a few. 

Learn that each experience teaches us new things as long as you're not bringing your past with you.

"Be the change you want to see"

@TreadmillTreats