Stop with the ghosting

Stop with the ghosting 

So if you follow me, you know that I am the Taylor Swift of blogging. I wrote a lot about my dating life and the dates I went on. But for the last year, I stopped dating all together. For me, it was too exhausting. It took too much energy, and honestly, how many horrible dates could one person go on? Trust me a lot! Just read my past blogs. 

It got so bad that I would only date after church on Sundays as I was already looking cute and didn't have to put any energy or effort into it. Yes, it had gotten that bad, and so I decided to stop.

I took time to do me, not constantly looking to find someone. I got to hang out with friends and my girls. I traveled, learned new things, and I wrote a lot. And to tell you the truth, it's been good this last year, and before I knew it, the year was over. 

Recently, someone that I've talked to a few years ago came back in the picture.

He ended up moving here and hit me up and asked me out. I thought about this long and hard because while we were talking before, he suddenly ghosted me. No explanation, nothing just gone. This really bothered me as I really felt we were vibing, so I didn't get it. And I guess I said yes because I really wanted to know what happened. 

So, on the 1st date in a year, and yes, I am nervous, but it was nice. Things flowed, and it seemed like we had a lot in common as I remembered.

I finally asked about the ghosting, and he said he had heard a man in the room when I called him that last time. I was away for the Thanksgiving weekend with friends. He thought I was back together with my ex that I told him about and that he didn't want to get involved with drama.

So he just assumes he doesn't ask. He just ghosts me. I don't know about you but I'm too old to play games and I no longer assume anything because hopefully your mama taught you that if you assume, you make an ass out of u and me. 

See, I got big balls, I would straight out ask you. Or I would tell you if I wasn't feeling it. I would sure as hell have the decency not to leave you hanging wondering what went wrong. 

But again, I feel better because at least now we have cleared the air, and we can move on. Or so I thought…

The night comes to an end he asks if he could see me again that week, and I said yes. Then you know what happens? Yup, you guessed it. He ghosts me yet again. No explanation, nothing, just crickets.

So today, my friends, I am here to tell you at this point I no longer care why he ghosted me because he doesn't matter. I don't want a man who doesn't care about another's feelings. I'm actually feeling like I dodged a bullet. I am looking for a real man, an honest man, a man who has the decency to do the right thing. So yes, buddy, I wrote about you and am here to tell you and to let all men know, to man up and stop with the ghosting.

“Be the change you want to see”

@TreadmillTreats