Dating today is a trip

Dating today is a trip, let me tell you. Things have definitely changed from 25 years ago wow! If you read my blog you know I keep it real and for me I always try to see the bright side of things and with dating.... Well, I have more things to write about in my blog, ha that's the bright side isn't it? Sometimes people will write to me about dating advice, well I am honored first of all that you read my blog and second that you would reach out to me for advice. But do you read my blogs? Me? The queen of picking them? I am not sure you want my dating advice, ha I not sure I want my own advice. Wait.. lets see I picked an abusive husband, I then dated Mr cant step up, went into the online dating scene and met Mr please beat me with a spoon, Mr whip and chains, Mr do you know who I am? Mr. I am racist even though I'm half black and lets not forget the all time favorite (and the inspiration for many blogs) Mr big time Con Artist! Oh, yeah I have a great track record baaa haaa oh, sorry just reading that made me laugh! Yup! I can pick them. Lately on my dating blog research ( yes next book is going to be about dating!This is just research) Okay now your thinking I am going to be the next Taylor Swift, talking about her ex's, yea without background music! Maybe I should write to her and we could colabate on her next album. What was I saying oh yeah, jerks , my latest online meetup, had to tell me how much he like to masterbate , Tmi!! Delete! On to our next winner talked about how he wanted a nice mid western girl with morals and values, how he wanted a long term relationship yet when you read his profile he said the first thing you notice about him was his eyes and his package! He then went on to say he like it freaky and he thought about sex all the time. So I wrote him back asking him which was it?Was he looking for a nice women or to just get laid? have you gotten a response? Yeah, me either! On the flip side, I had guys tell me stories, one girl got so bombed on their first date he had to call her friends to get her, another had a date that made him stop so she could buy a eight ball ha! "Just a quick stop at my dealers house first" oh yeah, winner!! I had friends tell me that the drama came out in the first 5 minutes. "oh my baby daddy number 3 is just getting out of prison soon" oh is that my phone ringing , gotta go! Run, Forest run! Yup, their are all kinds out there but I look as everything as a lesson, an experience I need to go through to help me grow, to have a testimony, to make me laugh, you got to laugh! This shit is funny people! Not to be negative, to hate men, to say they are all like this, no your missing the point if you think that. Laugh, say thank you for seeing the crazy now, my bestie always says the crazy doesn't come out until at least 3 months, it's a blessing, it was fast That is such a huge question, are you really that insecure? but believe me there are plenty of people out there that are. Yes, you know the type, hell you might even be dating or married to the type. The ones who are so insecure that you can't have friends of the opposite sex, some are so insecure they wont even "let" you talk to the opposite sex. Really? Cause you will jump over the counter and attack the bank teller with the bank teller with the cute smile or let the fed ex man in for a quickie or better yet the friend you have known since you were kids, that lives across the country and has always been there for you through thick and thin, yes, you might have cyber sex with even though you've slept in the same bed with not so much as a kiss in thirty years ? This is all about their insecurities not yours, this is their problem, don't make it yours. I had an ex husband who thought I was screwing everyone, I am not kidding and he would accuse me every day. If I was having that much fun I wouldn't had enough time to clean his house, cook his meals, clean the yard and the pool and take care of his kids and 200 plus animals every day! give me a break! I just lost a friendship over this and it has hurt me to the core, we have been friends since we were thirteen and last summer when I went home he was there for me to help me get over my divorce, he always makes me laugh and I truly enjoy his friendship and am grateful for it and what he has helped me gotten through. He met a girl right after I left and I was so happy for him, he's a great guy and she seems like a great girl that makes him happy. I was their biggest cheerleader but she obviously is insecure and doesn't like the fact that we were hanging out "before" he met her, so needless to say we are no longer friends and I so miss his friendship. It sucks! We didn't have a love affair, we were friends and even if we did so frigging what? If you don't trust your partner you have nothing! They can cheat at work, they can cheat any time or any place with anyone, point is, if they are going to cheat, then they will. You being insecure about it is not going to change the situation one bit! No if anything it will put more of a strain on the relationship. I have never been insecure, my theory is I will trust you until you give me reason not to. And if you do cheat, well...read my blogs I will kick your ass to the curb, no second chances, your loss not mine. Next! But I refuse to sit around and worry about imaginary stuff! Get real, believe that you are worthy, draw you line in the sand in the beginning "Btw I will not tolerate a lying, cheating man, if you do, its over no second chances" then get on with your relationship. Stop worrying about it, don't break up a long time friendship, because eventually they will get sick of your insecurities and will dump your butt and go running back to their friends just like I did, I realized my friends will always be there for me. Just think of how many relationships you've been through with one friend? Yup see my point? So if your dating someone now and they are insecure, Run! Run Forrest run!! That is a warning sign of other insecurities to come later, trust me! Love and trust that is what a relationship is based on, if you don't have that then just be single and enjoy life! Www.treadmilltreats.wordpress.com www.beachbodycoach.com/treadmilltreats look at it that way. But remember when God brings you the right one, the one meant for you, you will so grateful that you waited and you will know what a great person you have found because of the toads you have kissed. So yes I will keep telling stories and if you want giving advise, my best advise is know your worth, never settle for some who doesn't know it. You are one in a million don't settle for a penny! Set ground rules first, no I won't put up with lying, cheating, abusive men or women, I am worthy of being treated like the king or queen I am! And don't go back , give in or settle! In the mean time get to know yourself, your friends, your family , your interests. And keep reading and laughing because I do each and every day! Www.treadmilltreats.wordpress.com www.beachbodycoach.com/treadmilltreats