The miscommunication between people
The miscommunication between people
These last few years have taught me a lot of lessons, see you're never too old to learn something new!
I remember one such lesson I had when I reconnected with my old boyfriend. It was one of the biggest lessons I learned, that two people can see one event so differently.
For years we both harbored resentments against each other because of that and when we finally talked, 20 something years later, we realized that it wasn't like we thought at all.
Wow, what an eye opener, so when it happened to me again recently, again I was shocked. Yeah, yeah I am slow sometimes, hello! Do you read my blogs? It went like this, I went on a date with this guy I had been talking to for about 7 months and I finally agreed to meet him.
He brought flowers, wine, dinner, and we met at the beach. We had a great night, we said goodbye and he said he would follow me back to the highway so he could go his way and I could go mine.
So as soon as I get in the car I get on the phone with my girlfriend telling her how I am so blown away with how he opened doors for me, what a gentleman he was and what a nice time we had.
Now if you know me I am in la la land when I am talking on the phone. Yes, I pay attention to the road but not where I am, I have past exits by miles while on the phone!
I thought he was behind me, it was dark and by the time we got to 95, I figured he had this.
By Sunday he never called, I texted him and said I had a nice time, he answered he did too. A week goes by and now I am pissed, if you had such a nice time how come no call, no text? What kind of shit is that?
So my girlfriend says to me that I got big balls so I should call him and ask him because my readers need to know the answer to this question "Why didn't he call"
Yes, I write about all my dates, if you didn't know, I am the Taylor Swift of blogging!
So I did and it went something like this
Me: "I thought we had a nice time and then nothing? What's up with that?"
(You did just read that I have big balls?)
Him "Yes, I did until you ran off at the end of the date"
Me: "Ran off, I knew you had to be up really early for work, I was trying to not keep you up to late"
Him: "By leaving me in the dust and immediately jumping on the phone to someone else"
Me: "I thought you were behind me and I was telling my girlfriend what a gentleman I thought you were"
Him: "I guess I am stuck in the friend department cause you didn't even talk about another date when you gave me a hug and pat on the back before you raced off"
Wow, I didn't think I did that and looking at it from his point of view I could see how he could see it this way.
In my mind I was thinking I was trying to get him home early because he gets up at 5 am and that I had one of the nicest times since I've been dating and he's thinking I am running off because it was a horrible date and I just want to be friends.
Can we say miscommunication?
What if I didn't call? What if I just assumed he was a jerk? What if he thought I was one, we each wouldn't have known and we wouldn't have talked again. That would have been a shame.
We both laughed and we will be going out again but it taught me a lesson, to never assume, to speak up and to look at things from another's point of view.
So today my friends, don't be so fast to judge or get upset because of miscommunication. Especially text communication because nothing gets misconstrued like texting! Just talk about it, put it out there, don't let it get out of hand, you'll never know what you're missing.
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