Mean girls grow up to be mean women

Mean girls grow up to be mean women 

We all know these types of mean girls in school. They are usually pretty and popular and are mean to everyone who isn't. They probably made life miserable for many people growing up.

But I will never forget something someone said about Mr. Con Artist: 

"At 18, it is the sins of a boy, at 50, it is the character of the man"

And that is so true… What you did as a child is different, but if you're still doing it as an adult, well….that is definitely your character.

And recently one of those mean girls came at me.

 So you know when someone comes at you, you really just wanna jump back at them? Well that is me, see I am Italian and that's my 1st response, to get excited and jump out at someone but recently I've been holding back.

 I've been walking away, I've been taking time to calm down and think about what I want to say and how I want to say it.

Yes, this has been very hard for me because my first instinct is to jump at that person, at that moment, in that feeling.

Well, it started because recently I liked a comment that was on a post.

I didn't like the post, I liked the comment (Yes, this is how bad social media is getting today, not only can you not like a post, now you can not even like a comment left on said post??? Wtf??) I know I'm still shaking my head too, how stupid are we becoming?

So the poster jumped on me about liking this comment and as we were talking about free speech, particularly mine! This other woman who I went to school with years ago, who back then was one of those mean girls and obviously did not grow out of that, decided to put me on blast about something that happened 4 years ago.

Now mind you she was not involved in this conversation from get go but decided to put her less than two cents in about her feelings for me. And again what she was talking about was something that happened between me and my ex who was narrostic and passive aggressive and remember it happened 4 years before! And it was none of her damn business! But here she was calling me all kinds of names and going deep.

Now right out of the gate I wanted to blast her, I knew lots of dirt on her and could have spilled the beans for the world to see. But I just said:

"Isn't that funny the pot calling the kettle black"

And left it at that. She decided she was going to come at me again and again and I have to be honest I wrote all I was going to say at least 3 times. Thanking, oh you want some of this, come on bring it! 

You know the memes where they are typing all this stuff then they erase it then type it again and erase it? Yup, that was me…

Then I heard this voice saying she's not worth it, don't go rolling around in mud with pigs. Let her look petty and small all on her own...which I said and walked away. I am not in high school anymore, I am not going to throw punches with someone I could care less about. Who means nothing in my life then or now.

I don't have the energy and you know what I realized? That she had never grown up, she's still the mean girl from high school and honey, we ain't in high school anymore.

At this point in my life it is not worth it, I am at peace, I have an incredible life, I know who I am and I know even though I am far from perfect, I am a work in progress. I already lived through high school and have no reason to go back. 

This pandemic taught me what was important, see I can be friends with Trump supporters as long as they don't blast me or my opinions and I will do the same, then we are good. And I learned that some will be mean and vicious towards my point of view and guess what? I don't need that kind of negatively in my life, so bye. Block, delete or unfriend me, I don't care. Life is way too short to worry about your pettiness, go on do you boo, keep your meanness and pettiness and keep it moving, I'm done.

This year revealed a lot of haters, many racist and more than its fair share of people who obviously think their opinions are the only ones that matter. It also revealed that you don't need such a big circle, that just because you know people sometimes you really don't know them and that love conquers hate.

So today my friends, let go of jumping on someone, it's not worth it. My aunt used to always say opinions are like assholes, everyone has one, but lately some people think they have two, still let it go.

And realize who you are talking to…

Remember….At 18, it's the sins of a girl, at 50, it's the character of the women.

What does your character say?

"Be the change you want to see"

 

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