3 types of personalities in friendships

3 types of personalities in friendships 

I've always said that I've learned more in these last 10 years than I have in my whole life and it's true. I have learned alot about friendships in these years as well.

I'm no expert but I have come to realize that there are 3 types of personalities in people when it comes to friendship.

1.The I'm mad or upset and I'm not going to talk to you anymore type.

These people will be hurt maybe by something you said or did but will not confront you about it. It may have been something you didn't even realize but you are left wondering wtf did I do?

2. The I am hurt but I will talk to you about it type.

They will confront you and say what you said or did hurt my feelings and you'll be able to talk it out.

3. The I want blood for hurting me type.

These people will come at you full force, they want to hurt you but not just hurt you, they want to draw blood. They don't even want a apology, they want you to feel 10 times worse than you made them feel.

We as humans are not perfect, we screw up, we say things that may hurt others. We are not right all the time but we are human so yes, we all make mistakes but the best part about being human is our compassion. To say I'm sorry, to apologize, to make it work with another human being.

Maybe someone is going through something that you have no idea about, maybe you took it the wrong way, maybe it wasn't even you but other friends. Whatever the reason, aren't we adults here? Shouldn't we sit down in a calm and reasonable way and talk about it? Especially if you have been friends for years? 

Again this is just me and my opinion but if you hurt me I will confront you, because I look at the whole picture, the whole of who you are as a person. I see all of your faults but I also see all of your good as well. And I ask myself, does the good outweigh the bad? If it does I will forgive and forget and move on. 

If you are a repeat offender, and trust and believe I would have given you many many chances, but if I cut you off it will be because you gave me the knife. My friendships mean so much to me it really takes alot for that to happen. 

My thing is okay let's talk, let's figure this out, let's work on this. See friendship is like a marriage and they are both like jobs, you have to work on them. You may need to be called in once in a while for them to say what's up or you did this wrong so that you are allowed to fix it, to make it better.

But running away or intentionally trying to hurt someone is never going to fix anything. It's not facing the real issues, it's hiding behind other issues. 

One of the biggest lessons I have learned recently is to step away. Breathe, think about it. As I was always that person that ran out of the gate especially when I felt hurt but that isn't the way to do things.

Take a few days, a week to calm down, to look at it with different eyes and then come back and discuss it. When you're not coming from a place of hurt or anger it changes things, you can actually see the other person's side of things.

So today my friends ask yourself which friend are you? Ask yourself is this friendship worth saving or throwing away because your butt hurt? You never know what set that person off, you never know the circumstances unless you ask. You'll never give them a chance to explain if you're out for blood, or you close that door. And then ask yourself, are you human? Could you or have you unintentionally hurt another? If the answer is yes, we all deserve another chance, we all deserve to have forgiveness, we all deserve to forgive because we are all humans and at the end of the day friendships are hard to find.

"Be the change you want to see"

@Treadmilltreats