Changing your perspective

Changing your perspective

If you follow me you know that a few weeks ago I had a scare. I ended up in the hospital with chest pains. Now it may not seem like a big deal to most but for me, with my family history, it was beyond scary.

My dearest cousin passed away last year at 60, just like that healthy, always on the go, looked great and poof! Just like that, a heart attack took her and a few months later another cousin at 58. So this scare changed my perspective on life.

Not to say I am not already grateful for my life, I've learned that years ago but in terms of my mortality, it scared me. I am a single mom who owns her own business, I have no paid sick days, no paid healthcare, nothing, it is all on me.

I do have some savings and a 401k plan but if something happened I would have to use that to pay my bills and keep my house.

It really makes me mad that our government gets all of these perks, lifetime salary, the best healthcare and other benefits that the rest of the country doesn't, so they have no motive to change it.

People who are struggling, single mom's, or service men and women, we get nothing, while these bozos have nothing to worry about.

I tell you it's hard to put two kids through college, to pay a mortgage, health insurance and all the bill's yourself. 

Sometimes it's tough to make ends meet, especially when you work for yourself, most of the time it's feast or famine. Either I'm crazy busy or I'm hustling to get clients for that weeks bills.

But it is what it is when your self employed and sometimes you must weigh the benefits against the downside. One of the best benefits of working for yourself is you don't have to take shit from anyone. I can travel as much as I want and do what I want. If I want to cut out and have lunch with someone I can, no questions asked. But I also don't have paid days off, no paid holidays, no insurance, no 401k, or no job security. I am it, if I don't work, I don't get paid...period.

I realized that I need to get my life in order because I am already past the age that my dad died from heart disease and I am approaching the age my cousins and aunts were when they died from the same. I need to shit or get off the pot here because I am not getting any younger.

So I made sure everything was in order, I checked my will and revised it. I made sure I have life insurance and bought a disability policy incase something like this or worst should ever happen again, that I am protected, that me and my girls won't lose our home.

I cannot depend on anyone because I don't have anyone to depend on, I'm it and I must jockey up and be prepared.

As much as I think the system sucks and needs repairs, it may never change so we all need to be ready to help ourselves. Before this I thought I was invincible, I exercise, I eat right, I take care of my mental and physical health, I got this but this made me realize I could be gone tomorrow.

Now trust me this did not come cheap. Really? You think? In this country, nothing comes cheap but I would rather give up a few dinners a month or a few less shoes (My vice) to make sure I am protected.

Maybe you have to give up Starbucks and make your own coffee, bring your own lunch to work (I do that too) whatever your vice may be but if that is what it takes then do it. 

Don't be so cocky and thing I'm young, that will never happen to me, or I got time. Look at the young Fed ex driver that was 27 and killed in a robbery and shootout this week here in Miami. Dead at 27 with a wife and 2 kids, did he think this would be his last day? No, that's the point you never know, today may be it for you or for me. We are not guaranteed tomorrow so we must be prepared.

I exercise every day, I eat right for the most part. I limit my alcohol intake, I do yoga and meditation to calm myself. I go to church, I pray every day, I give back and pay it forward for my soul. I live in each and every moment, I balance my work life and my family life. I try to learn new lessons to grow spiritually and I am quick to forgive because I know just how short life is and how hatred and bitterness can eat you up inside. I am trying to do all the right things but even all that won't guarantee me health and a long life.

So today my friends remember, we only have a limited time here, be smart, get prepared and then do all you can to live your best life. If you know you have a family history of diabetes, watch your diet, if you have heart disease in your family get checked, exercise, watch what you eat. You are in control of your life, of your anger, of your bitterness, of your unforgiveness, all that is eating yourself up inside. You are the master of it all so you must be prepared. Yes, it is scary to think of your mortality but let's get real we are not getting out of this life alive, none of us! So make sure you are ready, start today to change your perspective.

** I know this is a tough of year so I will be putting this number out there for all that needs it...I been there and I know how dark it may seem especially during the Christmas season, there is help, it will get better...I am living proof of 

"This too shall pass"**

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