Parenting when you know better you do better

Parenting when we know better, we do better 

So recently I was talking to my baby and I am happy to say that she has finally found her passion. She is in college for agriculture, and she wants to open her own  Hydroponics farm. This girl blew me away as she made a 30 page business plan with a 10 page powerpoint. This was not for school mind you. This is her life goal and I told her how proud I am of her, that I know she can and will do this.

She told me her dad said the same thing and we started talking about how some parents never tell their kids that they are proud of them. As if it's just expected of them and why should they. I told her in each generation hopefully we learn and grow. I spoke about "When you know better you do better" 

One of my favorite Maya Angelou quotes.

Some parents weren't brought up to be  affectionate with their kids. Some parents think it's a child's job so why do they need to encourage them?

My mothers generation didn't talk about deep feelings, they didn't have Oprah or Jerry Springer where everyone talked about their problems. No, in their generation you sucked it up and put your big girl panties on and got on with life.

My mother couldn't talk to me about deep issues, but I saw the big picture. I knew this was the way she was raised and I couldn't hold it against her as she didn't know how to do that. When I had my girls I decided to break that generational curse. I was going to talk to my girls about everything, even their sex life if they wanted to share it with me. Nothing was off limits, this was a judgment free zone. I would give my opinion but it is up to them to take it or not.

Look, we all come from some kind of dysfunctional family, but it is on us whether you do the same or decide to change. I can't imagine not telling my girls I love them every day or saying how proud I am of them. I am their biggest cheerleader and always will be. I feel sorry for children who grow up without encouragement and hope but there is always hope for the next generation.

So today my friends remember that only we can change the past. We can learn, we can grow, we can evolve, and yes, we can change the mistakes of the past. There are always things you can change, either you can be just like your parents or you can be totally opposite. 

Or take the best of them and leave the parts that didn't work. This is what's so amazing about us humans we can always change anything if you truly want to.

And like I always say at the end of every blog…

"Be the change you want to see"

@TreadmillTreats