Can Men And Women Be Friends?

Can Men And Women Be Friends? 

This has been a question long asked by both men and women. Can the opposite sex be just friends?

When you ask this question you will get a lot of different responses. I remember asking about this with a bunch of my friends. You had the one side that said no. No way, men and women cannot do it, because there is always sex that comes in the way. Eventually, you end up in bed together, or the guy wants to sleep with you.  

Then there was the opposite group saying "Why not?" I am, of course, in this group as I grew up mostly having male friends. Since my divorce, I have reconnected with most of them. I don't get it and maybe it's because I am an only child and always wanted to have brothers or that growing up there were only boys on my street to play with. Besides, one of the most important facts is that guy friends don't bring drama, and you will never have a cat fight with them.

I love my guy friends like they were truly my brothers. Sleep with them? Yuck no way! Would you sleep with your brother? Sexual attraction? No! I want to hook them up with my girlfriends who are looking for good guys. 

Look, a lot of people are very insecure and don't trust their partners, but you need to get over it. If they are going to cheat, they are going to cheat. They will cheat with their best friend, with the waitress down the street, or with their assistant, if that's what they want to do. So my view is you trust your man or woman until they give you reason not to, period. I have no time in my life to be worried about whether my partner is going to cheat or not. 

I know that my guy friends have given me a lot in my life. They have given me advice, they have taught me things, helped me out of binds, even pretended to be my date to get rid of a creeper. My world was not the same without them. While I was married to the most insecure man on this planet, I was even stupid enough to cut my very best friend out of my life for him. Hello, he was gay. Duh! No threat there. But he didn't even want me hanging around with him because of his insecurities.

So today my friends, the one thing I've learned is that life is way too short. Have as many friends as possible, if they enrich your life. I know my guy friends make things fun, they have my back, and they make each day that much brighter, so don't limit yourself! You can never have too many friends. So, yes, I believe that men and women can be friends. Tell me what are your thoughts on this?

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