Cassie And Diddy

Cassie And Diddy

So unless you're living under a cave you know what's going on about the Diddy trial and what Cassie had to say about it.

I have heard so many people speak out about this. Like why did Cassie wait so long? Why didn't she speak out earlier? Or that it was only for the money. It is obvious that all these people who are speaking on this have never had to go through an abusive relationship and it shows. 

Because if you have you would know what it is like. This doesn't start overnight, he doesn't beat you or put you down on the first date. No, he sucks you in, he treats you better than you've ever been treated. He is kind and caring, he will lovebomb you and make you think you're the luckiest girl in the world. 

It is not until he totally sucks you in, until you fall in love with him that he will show you his true colors. And then it will only be a little bit. He will apologize and swear he will never do it again. He will be extra sweet and you will believe him. It may be months before he does it again. And again he will profess how sorry he is, he will buy you gifts, and flowers. And again you will forgive him. He will go back to the man you fell in love with and you'll think Oh, I must have done something to set him off or he was just having a bad day. 

When he knows he has torn you down enough the real man will come out. When he's pushed all your friends and family away it will be then that the mask will come off and he will show you who he truly is. You won't have a support system left, and you'll think you're crazy because he will tell you that you are, that it's your fault that he does that. And because you love him, you'll believe it, you want to make him happy. You'll think he will go back to the man you fell in love with, but that man is gone. Actually he never really existed, he was just there to suck you in. 

You start believing all he tells you. You're useless, you'll never make it without him, you're stupid, or whatever else he likes to call you. You start to think that you can't make it without him so you stay. Deep down you're still hoping that the man you fell in love with will come back. He is gone, but you just can't admit it and your still in love with that man. Maybe you were young like me and thought I couldn't go home with my tail between my legs and admit I made a mistake. Your ego keeps you stuck, maybe you have children and don't think you could support them. Maybe you like the lifestyle and don't want to leave it. Maybe he has torn you down so much, you believe all of his lies, that you are useless and can't live without him. He has programmed you to believe that. There are many reasons we stay but none of them are for you to judge because you have never walked in our shoes so you don't know. 

So today my friends there are many reasons we stay in an abusive relationship. Low self-esteem, love, and children are just a few of the reasons. But unless you walked in our shoes, you have no idea how hard it is. You have no idea how long it takes us to get the courage to leave. No idea how many of us blame ourselves for their unhappiness. You don't know how many times we have been put down and start believing what he has said about us. You don't know, so don't judge. Trust me we judge ourselves enough without your help. 

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