Mixed signals

Mixed signals 

It's so funny how we as humans get our signals mixed up, so many times. 

This is especially true now with texting, the best form of miscommunication as far as I am concerned.

Somehow we just can't come out and ask what is going on. Are we that afraid of the answers? Who knows but we do it all the time and sometimes we miss the opportunity for something great because of it.

Of course I speak from experience here as I always do and realized this lately. 10 years ago while I was home on vacation, I caught up with an old friend and we were vibing. We went out a few times and I have to tell you it was nice, there was definitely chemistry there between us. We end up one night going to play pool and an old boyfriend of mine shows up and acts like we are still together. Basically he cock blocks the whole vibe thing going on. Before I knew it, this other person was gone. 

I was upset that I didn't get a chance to explain the situation, that me and this guy were definitely not together and would never be again. But I wasn't sure he was feeling what I was feeling at the time and I was too afraid to ask him. But somehow that never happened and poof! 10 years goes by without a word. 

Fast forward and we meet again and yes, the vibe is still there,even after 10 years. We have both been through relationships and here we are again, both single.

When we started speaking of our last meeting, we realized that we were both having feelings back then and we both have know idea why we never spoke about it afterwards.

How did we let 10 years go by when it could have been something beautiful? 

We as humans do this all the time, petty arguments, the tone of your voice sets someone off, not being able to say what you really feel. There are many reasons we stay quiet or stay mad at others but we have to realize that we may never have the chance to get it right. If covid taught us anything, it's that life is too short, we must say the things we feel, make the wrongs right, and apologize for things we may have said or did, that hurt others.

We need to learn to communicate and stop getting blind sided by mixed signals.

So today my friends, you are probably asking if this will go anywhere? I don't know but I do know that we have learned to be honest about our feelings.

I've learned that I never want to miss an opportunity like this again because I didn't speak up.

Whether it works out or not,  at least we put it all out there on the table, there are no mixed signals and we will let fate take it from there.

"Be the change you want to see"

@TreadmillTreats