I'm not intimidating. you're just intimidated

I am not intimidating your just intimidated

I heard this recently from a friend of mine while we were talking about the dating world today. I had said that many men said that I was intimidating. She turned around and said said "I'm not intimidating. you're just intimidated." 

That was a light bulb. Oprah, ah ha, a moment for me. She was absolutely right. This is your problem, not mine. 

I realized I am who I am, I'm not out here trying to take away a man's role. I will always let my man be the man he is supposed to be. I would never belittle him or berate him. I know how to treat my man like the king he is. But… he has to be okay with me being me. 

I will never be a woman who doesn't know how to pump their own gas or not know how to fix something that is broken or that doesn't do yard work. This is me. Can we do it together? Yes, absolutely. I hope that we will be a team, but I can't change who I am to make a man feel more secure.

I want a man like my dad, who, even though he was from a totally different era, where women didn't do things that men did, he was different. He taught me how to build a house, fix a toilet, and change my own oil in my car. He thought women could do anything a man did and was proud that his wife and daughter could do these things. He was not intimidated by strong women. He loved that we were strong women. 

So today, my friends remember that if a man is intimidated by who you are, this is not your issue. Keep doing you. A real man will love you for who you are. 

And if he thinks you're intimidating, it's because he's intimidated.

"Be the change you want to see"

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