I Refuse To Settle

I refuse to settle

After being single by choice for the last few years, I have come to the conclusion that I will no longer settle. I have come way too far in my life to settle for a man that's not perfect for me. Wait, before you go off on me, I did not say perfect, I said perfect for me, big difference. 

There is no perfect person and I am as far from perfect as they come, just so you know that I am not living in la la land. I am not asking for anything unreasonable, like he has to be 6' blond, 200 lbs, with muscles, blue eyes, make at least 600,000 a year, drive a 750 BMW and be a Virgo. 

Don't laugh. I know some women with this list and they will not bulge (Well, good luck to them) No, I know that list is unrealistic, but...there are a few things on my list that are non-negotiable.

I will not settle for a man who does not have God first and foremost in his life.

My religion has saved my life, literally and my faith and my church are the biggest part of my life. I will not sell my soul to a man with money and lose myself. I've been there, done that for 24 years, but never again. 

He has to love my girls. This is a package deal and we are a close family that always do things together. So just know this, coming in.

I will no longer settle for broken, unreliable men. 

No, I am not here to fix you, you need to work out your issues before you start a relationship. It took me years to work on mine. I went back to therapy and I've been alone by choice. 

I had to first own my part in my failed marriage, and figure out what I needed to fix. I had to figure out why I kept picking narcissist, controlling men. Why I felt I wasn't enough or would put up with crap. You must have taken this journey by yourself, don't bring the garbage into the next relationship. Same problems, same end result. 

I will not be your mother, I've raised two kids not looking to do that again. Be a grown up.

I will not settle for a lying, cheating or deceitful man. No, I deserve to have a man love me enough and love me completely just as I will do for him. If you think there is something better out there, then don't let the door hit you in the ass on the way out.

I will not settle for a man who will disrespect me.

No, I now know my self worth. I am worthy of being treated like the queen I am. Just as I would never disrespect you, you will do the same.

I want someone with a kind heart, that is compassionate. That is close to his family and is there for his friends. Someone who knows his finances and at 50 is not living paycheck to paycheck. Sorry, I did that at 20, and we are definitely not 20 anymore. You got to at least have what I have. 

Someone who is funny, (Trust me, funny is the new sexy) 

Who can laugh at themselves and the world. Who has your back and will "Let you crash their party" like that Luke Byron song says. He would drop everything to be with me, that I come second after God to him.

Someone who cares enough about himself to be in shape and exercises. Someone who enjoys the outdoors, and someone who is a blessing to others.

Is this such an unrealistic list I ask you?

Isn't this what human beings should be?  

Not someone who is looking to get over or hurt someone else? Seriously, am I asking for too much?

Doesn't matter if I am, this is my list, make your own if you want something different or you think it is unrealistic.

I refuse to settle. I know what kind of woman I am.

I know what I bring to the table. I will love you until the end of time. I will be your biggest cheerleader. I will have your back, and I will fight the world for your honor. I will be there to help you, and I would even carry you if you fall. I will be your partner 100%. I will give my all, care about your feelings, and will always be honest and faithful. 

All I ask is the same in return that's all and if I can not find someone who is willing to give as much as I am well then I am just fine being alone because I refuse to settle. I am putting it out there, these are the conditions and the deal breakers, so be it!

So today my friends, you need to think long and hard. Are you settling because you're lonely, because you can't live without someone in your life? Are you settling for half a man or a woman? My advice is don't settle, know your worth and take nothing less!

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