You can't pick who you fall in love with Part 2

You can't pick who you fall in love with Part 2

Yesterday I started part 1 of 2 blogs on how you can't pick who you fall in love with.
Love is a funny thing, it comes when we least expect it, it hits us hard as the heart wants what the heart wants.

Sometimes we look at people and think what a odd couple. Look at Beyonce and Jay-Z, Angelina Jolie and Billy Bob Thorton,
Julia Roberts and Lionel Lovett.
Who hasn't said "What does she see in him? Or what does he see in her"
It's because we never know what a person is feeling about another, what clicks, what that one person makes the other feel like.

Sometimes you meet someone and you automatically feel like you've known them a lifetime, it's an instant connection and bam! Your in love!

Sometimes we fall way before we want to admit and before we really know who that person is or what that person wants.
Which was the case with me, my prince charming was younger, I didn't know how much at the time or that he wanted children. Yeah, I guess from now on that will be my first questions but this was a unique situation. He was a friend of a friend, we meet one night out and starting dancing together. We danced all night with each other and the cement was set before we even exchanged phone numbers.

When we went out the following week we talked all night, as if we knew each other for a lifetime.
It flowed and there was such a soul connection that we both felt it. Maybe we both didn't want to break the spell and ask too much as then reality could set in and break this spell.
So we just kept enjoying each other until a few months into it there was the elephant in the room and we needed to address it.
We had the talk...Yes, he wanted children and no, I did not. This hit us so hard it made us both cry because we knew this was a deal breaker and we both realized that we were already in too deep.

But hey we are adults, we could handle this right? We could live in this moment, enjoy each other's company knowing this wouldn't last forever. We both agreed to move forward with this relationship. He made me laugh, he told me the other men were fools to let me go, he appreciated all I did for him. He let me know how much he cared with not just his words but his actions. He taught me how a real man should treat me and how I should expect nothing less. I had been used and abused by quite a few other men, which I fully raise my hand and say I allowed to happen.

He was teaching me self worth which I desperately needed. I was teaching him to compromise, to trust again and to know that when a women loves a man she will put him first and always let him know.
That's what we said this relationship was, it was a learning one that we obviously both needed.

We openly talked about him one day finding a wife and having kids and me finding a forever man. People thought it was weird but we knew we were just being realistic and thought somehow it would make it easier when the day came to walk away.

Well surprise, it's never easy to walk away from someone you love especially when there is nothing wrong in the relationship. I just realized that I want a love like this forever and I don't have 5 or 10 years to invest like he does. One day he will wake up and ache for children and it will be over. I needed to walk away now, still young enough to find someone to spend the rest of my life with.
But this was easier said than done as emotions don't work that way, you can't just turn them on and off at will.

This hurt and it hurt bad and the fact that it was hurting him, hurt me more.
But we both knew this was not a forever love but someone had forgot to tell our hearts.

Yes, there is the heartbreak that makes you feel like you can't breathe, like your life is truly over. When you can't picture your life without this person and it almost makes you change the things you want. We both thought about giving up our dreams but we knew we would regret the decisions later on and I could never let him give up his dream of children even for love.

So we said goodbye, to this amazing, beautiful and one of the happiest relationships I have ever known. I know one day he will met that special person who will give him all of his dreams and hopefully I will met my forever man. But until then my heart will ache for my Prince charming and the love we shared.
They say you truly love someone when you only want to see them happy and that is my wish for you my love...to be happy and have all you wish for.
How I only wish....
But all this heartbreak is worth it as I will never forget what this love gave me.

So today my friends, remember you can't pick who you fall in love with, the heart wants what the heart wants...

"Be the change you want to see"
 
"And just when the caterpillar thought his life over...he turned into a beautiful butterfly"

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