Why can't we show our vulnerability?

Why can't we show our vulnerability?

Recently I was talking to a friend about why I put my life out there in this blog. I was explaining that when I started this blog I knew that there had to be other people out there going through abusive situations like I was. I felt so alone and I knew that there had to be somebody else out there that felt this way as well.

So when I decided to start this blog I decided to be transparent as I possibly could. I was going to show the world the good, the bad, and even the really ugly in my life. I didn't want to just sugarcoat shit and make it look like everything was great like so many people tend to do on social media. I wanted them to see real life, I wanted them to see me vulnerable, to be open and honest about everything because I had to be true to myself and who I was. For so many years I lied about my "Perfect life" and I refused to lie anymore.

I'm human, we are all human but we tend to put this shield up and want the world to see that we are perfect. I'm here to knock down the walls, to say that I'm not perfect. I'm here to say I cry, I asked why God why? I get mad, I curse, and I don't feel like blowing sunshine up people's asses sometimes even though I write an inspirational blog every day. It is okay to show your vulnerability, it's okay to say I don't know what to do, and it's okay to say I'm having a bad day or I'm hurting.

Why is this so hard for us to do? Why are we so afraid of our own feelings? I know my parent's generation, was a generation of holding your feelings in, in the idea of pulling up your pants and being a big girl, in never showing emotion. So many people grew up in that generation and they passed that down to the next generation so that we were all afflicted with that disease. Years ago we didn't have Dr. Phil or Oprah or Maury, we didn't put our dirty laundry out there. We sucked it up and we went on like everything was great but that caused so many internal problems with so many people. It came out in other ways like alcoholism or drug addiction or physical or mental abuse to someone else because we were never true to ourselves. We always had to live up to this facade of who we should be, who the world saw.

Nowadays people are more open to help, and they're more open to expressing feelings but even still because of social media we now all want this "perfect life" that we see out there in social media land.
A perfect life is really just bullshit because it's a facade that we all put out there to show that we have a perfect life. A facade to show that we have the perfect family, or the perfect job when in actuality so many people are one paycheck away from being homeless when so many marriages are a sham and most people cry themselves to sleep at night. When your family is a dysfunctional mess, but the pictures show a whole nother thing to the world because we're too afraid to open up, to show vulnerability, to show what's really going on.

My question is why? So these people out there, the social media trolls, these haters or maybe even your family member or friends are going to judge you? I always think about one of my favorite Bible verses "He who has no sin cast the first stone"
Because we all have our own shit that we're going through, we all are fucked up in our own way so who am I to judge, even if somebody did who cares? Do they pay your bills? Are they doing anything in your life? and even if they are and they are tearing you down, you need to get rid of them. You need somebody else in your life that actually cares about you and can accept you, flaws and all.

So today my friends remember, it's okay to be real, to show feelings, and to be vulnerable because we are all humans. We all fuck up, we all fall down, and we all hurt and cry, just as long as we don't stay there. Just as long as we don't live there but learn the lessons and then help others to learn theirs, that my friends are what life is really about. So go ahead and show your vulnerability, it's beautiful just like every other part of you.

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