Not everyone has your heart

Not everyone has your heart

This has been a hard lesson for me to learn, as I think everyone has a heart like mine. I think because I would get up and out of my bed at 3 am for a friend in need that others would do the same for me.

I think that when I am in a relationship, the other person would give 100% like I do.

I think that even when I am just seeing someone that they would be there for me in my time of need, like I would be there for them....but they won't....why? Because… Hello.. Not everyone has my heart.

It's a hard lesson for me because I can't fathom the idea of not caring, of not reaching out or going above and beyond for someone. Especially someone I care about or love. I can't fathom the idea of not being a true and loyal friend or lover. I can't see how people don't go above and beyond to show their love to someone but they don't and I need to see that and realize not everyone is going to do what I do or what I think they should do.

Not everyone is capable of undying love or sacrifice for others. Not everyone is selfless and giving of themselves. Not everyone cares as much as I do and I need to get over my fantasy that they will change, because they won't.

I need to listen when people tell me who they are and believe them. Hello, Maya Angelou, one of my heroes always said that and I quote: "When a person shows you who they are, believe them"

Why is it so hard to believe them? 

I need to learn to trust my instincts when I feel something is not right.

I need to realize when it is a lost cause, then cut my losses and walk away.

I need to value my self worth enough to say nope, that ain't happening. To stand up and say you will not treat me like that or not today buddy, and close that door for good.

I need to remember I am a role model for my girls, that I must practice what I preach. I can't tell others to value themselves, when I clearly don't value myself.

I need to accept people for who they are, on their level of what they are capable of giving and if I can't, then I need to walk away. 

I can't get mad or hurt when they are not willing or able to be what I want them to be or to step up, like I think they should, this is clearly my issue.

I have learned a lot in the last 7 years. I have learned more now than ever before in my life, because I chose to learn the lessons. I look for them in everything, the good and the bad,

I ask, "What is the lesson here? What is God trying to teach me?"

This was clearly a lesson I needed to learn and I have to tell you, it has been a painful one. But I got it, loud and clear.  Even though I thought I learned it, I needed to relearn a few more times as this is a hard lesson for me. If you read my blog you know that I am hard headed and it takes me a few times to get the lessons but eventually I do. 

So today my friends remember, do you, do good because that is who God made you to be. Don't worry about others doing what you do, sometimes they won't, they can't, still do you, anyways.

If you go about it this way you won't end up hurt or disappointed, because trust me, not everyone has your heart.

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