Not Being Desperate

Not Being Desperate 

When you're not so desperate for a man you become choosy. These are the facts. Some women, actually many that I know, are so desperate for a man that they will pick the first one who comes along and gives them any bit of attention. 

Hey, to them, a warm body in bed is better than no body in bed with you. 

Doesn't matter that he is broke or broken. That he's abusive or drinks. Doesn't matter if is a cheater or a liar. He's a man who is giving her attention, good or bad, it's attention that she needs and can't live without. 

These women haven't worked on themselves. They haven't gone to therapy and please don't come at me saying therapy costs money because there are many free programs across the country. I know because I found them for myself.

They haven't dealt with their daddy issues, their past traumas, or their childhood dysfunction. They go from one toxic relationship to another picking the same type of men and then blaming the men. 

I get it, I did the same thing. I picked controlling, narcissistic men over and over and said it's them! No, girl, it was me! I needed to fix myself. I needed to learn what was broken inside of myself to see why I allowed this to go on, over and over again. 

Once I did the work on myself I became choosy. I no longer settled for half ass men. I required them to bring more to the table than just their dicks. I wasn't desperate anymore for anyone's attention so I could step back and see the red flags before jumping into the lion's den just because I was desperate. I now knew what I wanted and how I expected to be treated and I was not settling for less. Even if that meant I was alone, I was okay with that. 

I chose, God I love that word. I chose to do things I wanted to. To build up my world with my girls, my friends, and my business. I did things that I enjoyed doing and spent more time with my church and God. I completed my damn self! I sure as hell wasn't letting some man in just because I was desperate. I wanted a man, I no longer needed one to complete me. Big difference. 

So today my friends, remember who you are. If you keep picking the same type of crappie men over and over look at yourself. Then ask yourself what is missing inside of you that you are allowing this in your life. What is broken? And then go and fix it.

Don't make choices because you are desperate for love. Know your worth and love yourself first.

“Be the change you want to see”

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