Why do women tear each other down?

Why do women tear each other down?

I often wonder why is it that women tear each other down? Maybe growing up and being "one of the boys" all my life, I didn't see it and wasn't part of all the girl drama, because boys don't have any of that.

I learned of it while watching my two teenage girls growing up, and realized that there is so much drama amongst girls. Look I get it, they want to fit in, be liked, they don't really know who they are and they are searching.

I remember telling my girls when they were growing up that, that was  the difference between a girl and a woman, is that a real woman doesn't need to put down other women, she instead, uplifts them. She's the one that will fix another woman's crown.

But a lot of times that is not true and what is really sad is there are women, grown ass women we see on TV and in our own neighborhoods, that are still petty and jealous, still wanting to tear each other down. 

Hell, they even made millions off of the Housewives of who gives a shit, shows that are based on hateful, bitter, petty women that fight for the title of the biggest bitch.

Seriously and people watch this shit and think it's okay to act like this? To cheat and lie, to put each down and scrap like two alley cats? Is this how low our society has become?

But here's the question we really need to ask, does it make you feel better, tearing another down? Does it make you smarter? Prettier? Tougher?

No, it makes you ugly to the core! Sorry I have to tell it like it is! I don't sugar coat shit, if you read my blogs you know what I say, I am not Willy Wonker!

You are ugly to the core, the fact that you put others down, demean, belittle and treat others less than, because they are not what "your" idea of beauty is or that they don't have the latest shoes or designer bag or their not the right "size". is not okay. 

Really? Is that what you base your self worth on? If it is then I feel truly sorry for you, you know nothing about being human, being a child of God, a person with a compassionate heart towards others.

I know that yes, even in church we have women like that, sometimes they are even more ugly because they are "righteous" and "religious" But hey, my Bishop who is a really smart man says "Sick people come to church"

Yes, they are sick, dying inside and so they are trying to fill the bottomless pit where their soul once were. The only way to take the spotlight off of them is to shine it on others pointing out others "flaws"

How many trolls and haters are there on social media today? So many that the sucide rate is up amongst teenagers by 30% from my generation.

People that have nothing better to do than to point out flaws, put people down, point their fingers from the safety of their computer screens because they would never have the balls to say it to your face.

Ask yourself, do you reach out to other women? Are you jealous of them? Do you really feel happy when good things happen to other women? Do you encourage and support them? If you answered no to any of these questions you need to look inside yourself and figure out what's missing inside in you. Is it because you are not whole within you, that causes you to need to do that?

Stop and think about why you do what you do and then make a change.

So today my friends, especially my "real" women friends, we need to stick together, we need to teach this next generation what a real women looks like. That real women uplift, support and encourage one another. And never forget what they say:

 "Do not ever look down on someone unless your offering them a hand to get up"

To all of my soul sistas,I could not live my life without you, you inspire me to be better, you are my role models. Amazing mothers and wives, friends and sisters that are always there with encouragement, with love, a shoulder to cry on and love for me no matter what. You, my friends, are the women I want my daughters to know and grow up to become. Thank you for everything, I love you always! 

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