My dating disasters
My dating disasters
So if you follow me you know that in the last 9 years since my divorce, I have been out in the dating world. Dating has changed a lot in the last 24 years since I was married. it's a whole new world out there. It was something I wasn't ready for or expecting, I can tell you that. Now with this online dating, it seems like everything has changed and it's definitely not for the better.
Now I always try to see the good in everything and even though I have been on the worst dates ever, at least for me I get something out of it...this blog. I always have a good story to write about and I get to tell my girlfriend's the next day and have a good laugh with them. Trust and believe me when I tell you that I've had some really horrible dates, so much so that one of my girlfriends won't even date because she is so afraid of what's out there while watching me dating and listening to my horror stories.
I have had dates that didn't even buy me a cup of coffee, I've had dates that try to feel me up after buying me a cup of coffee. I've had dates that expected me to buy a piece of pizza, and I've had dates that asked me to spank them with a wooden spoon. I even had one guy ask me to help him with his makeup as he liked to dress up as a woman...Wtf? Look people, I can't make this shit up! As good as I am as a writer this is even beyond the scope of my imagination.
But through all of my horror stories, I still have hope. Yes, as I say all the time, I am Tinkerbell and I still believe in happily ever afters. I am not one of those women who believe that all men are dogs, I still have hope that there is a good man out there for me. But to tell you the truth after so many dating nightmares I have become a little jaded, even to the point of only wanting to date on Sunday because I'm already dressed up and looking pretty for church so I don't have to put any effort into it. Or dating on Saturday afternoons because I'm already at the beach and at least this way if you don't show up I'm still doing something I love and it's no great loss. Yes, this is what dating has done to me, I have no expectations of anything anymore.
So recently while I was talking to this guy, he asked me out and I thought okay, here goes another one. But when he said he made dinner reservations and would text me the address, everything changed for me. Was this a date? Like a real date at a restaurant on the first date? Unheard of! Now this made me excited, I actually was excited to go on this date. This hasn't happened in years and I thought wow, this is a real gentleman here, and trust and believe, there are not that many out there. It's like all men have lost that gift of being a gentleman. I truly don't know what happened but it's definitely gone for so many men out there. This alone made me excited because there was a stand-up man that made reservations, that wasn't doing a drive-by date like most of the men I have dated. In case most of you don't know the term "drive-by date" it's when a man will meet you for 15 minutes, usually for coffee, and many won't even buy you that $1.35 cup of coffee. Yes, I am serious, lord help me.
So again because of all these reasons I was excited. I even got dressed up, on a Wednesday night, and blew off church. This was big for me, to have to shave my legs in the middle of the week, are you kidding me? This was definitely something. I was so nervous that I even forgot to put on deodorant and had to stop to buy some on the way there. I have to tell you this date gave me hope that yes, there are still some real men out there. Men who pull out chairs for you, who order your drinks, and have appetizers ready for you. Men who have intelligent conversations and pay the bill at the end of the night and who don't try to grope you at the end of the night. Wow. I have no idea if this will go anywhere but it definitely gave me a sliver of hope after so dating so many creeps. Look I know there are good men out there, I found a prince once but now I am looking for my king.
So today my friends, I write this to give everyone out there a glimmer of hope, to say don't give up. I know that we have to kiss a lot of frogs before we find that prince but don't give up and don't settle. Being alone and happy is better than being with some and sad and lonely. He's out there and he's looking for you too.
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