Promoting your man on social media
Promoting your man on social media
I remember going to a singles event last and one of the speakers was talking about how women, as soon as we get a man, we are all over social media promoting him.
You get on there as soon as you meet him, saying "Oh he's such a great man, he's so cute, he has a great job, he is so sweet"
Hello, girl, you know him for like 3 minutes, come on now.
But you're so happy you got yourself a man, it's the first thing you do. "Ohhhh...look at me I got a man! Everyone see this, here he is"
You're out here telling the world that he takes you out, he buys you flowers, there you are saying "Oh..isn't he the best?"
All this after three and a half minutes of knowing him, it's just crazy. You're marketing him way beyond his potential.
Hell, you don't even know his potential or even if he has any at all but there you are promoting this man all over social media.
I have girlfriends that as soon as they meet a man there they are posting pictures of him, then two weeks later here's another one, three weeks later yet another one. I told one friend don't post a picture of another man unless he puts a ring on it!
We all notice that after a few weeks or even a few months, when the crazy starts to come out and all of a sudden you're changing your tune.
You're not posting so much, thinking maybe you might have jumped into this too fast. You think?
I am saying this from experiences, because believe me I've done this, to the extreme. I knew my ex husband for 2 weeks when I went back home, sold my business, rented out my house, and gave my dog away (Yes, you read this right, I even gave my dog away) and moved lock, stock and barrel 1500 miles away, where I knew no one.
After the first month I knew I made a horrible mistake but hell I promoted him all over...how great he was, what a catch, look at this good man I found and the fact that I moved 1500 miles away just to be with him.
How was I going to say now "Oops I made a mistake, not really the great guy I thought" No, I had a big ego, that shit wasn't happening, I wasn't going home with my tail between my legs so I stayed, and that was a bigger mistake!
Yes, we all do this and some of us did this way before social media. See we want others to see how happy we are, because we are all trying to project something we are not.
So did I learn my lesson? Well it took me a while. If you follow me you know I am hard headed and afterwards I did have a run in with Mr.Con Artist. I was just divorced and I was promoting him and all the gifts he bought me, all the trips, and all the wonderful things he did and said. I was trying to say "Hello, ex look at this great guy I got...ha,ha, your loss"
Now you're laughing but don't lie, you've all done that, until we get wise.
Now how is this for a lesson, to then have to put out what a fool you had been to the world, that he was actually a lying, cheating dog. And no, not just with one woman but 3 and a wife for good measure!
Oh yeah... I've learned that I am no longer anyone's PR guy! You need to earn that status.
We all see our friends doing the same thing but they don't tell the real story like I did. No, they just say they are getting off Facebook for a while or they just stop promoting him but we all know the reason.
Ha...you're laughing because you know those people or maybe you're one of them?
Let's just sneak away until you hope people forget all the PR work you did for that fool.
What about the man that is really for you, who is out there, but he now doesn't want you now because you're constantly promoting these other men. Seriously how does that look to other men?
It's funny a man won't admit he's in a relationship with you, yet all the while you're promoting him. No, he sits back and let's you do all the work for him. Yet who's promoting you? Who's calling out what a great woman you are? Yeah I thought so...you don't have an answer to that one.
Look, I put my whole life out here, the good, the bad and the really ugly because I hope that someone will see themselves in me, in my failures, in my mistakes. I hope they will see me, warts and all getting up over and over, never giving up, and learning the hard lessons to try to become a better person.
But you don't have to, learn from my mistakes...
So today my friends, my advice to you is don't promote that person so fast, make sure they are the one, and make sure they deserve to be promoted first.
"Be the change you want to see"
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