Are you really that insecure?

Are you really that insecure?

That is such a huge question. Are you really that insecure? But believe me, there are plenty of people out there that are. 

Yes, you know the type. Hell, you might even be dating or married to the type. The ones who are so insecure that you can't have friends of the opposite sex. Some are so insecure they won't even "let" you talk to the opposite sex.

Really? Why because they think you will jump over the counter and attack the bank teller with the cute smile, or maybe you will let the Fedex man in for a quickie. Better yet, maybe you would screw the friend you have known since you were kids that lives across the country and has always been there for you through thick and thin. 

Yes, they think you might even have cyber sex with them even though you've slept in the same bed with them a dozen times with not so much as a kiss in thirty years? This is all about their insecurities, not yours. This is their problem, don't make it yours.

I had an ex-husband who thought I was screwing everyone. I am not kidding, and he would accuse me of it every day. If I was having that much fun I wouldn't had enough time to clean his house, cook his meals, clean the yard and the pool, take care of his kids and 200 plus animals every day! Give me a break!

I remember losing a friendship over this, and it hurt me to the core

We have been friends since we were thirteen, and one summer, when I went home, he was there for me to help me get over my divorce. He had always made me laugh.

I truly enjoyed his friendship and was grateful for it and what he has helped me get through.

He met a girl right after I left that summer, and I was so happy for him. He's a great guy, and she seems like a great girl who made him happy. I was their biggest cheerleader, but she was obviously insecure and didn't like the fact that we were hanging out "before" he met her. So needless to say, because of her insecurities, we are no longer friends, and I miss his friendship so much. 

It sucks! We didn't have a love affair. We were friends, and even if we did so frigging what? If you don't trust your partner, you have nothing! They can cheat at work. They can cheat anytime or any place with anyone. The point is, if they are going to cheat, then they will.

You being insecure about it is not going to change the situation one bit! No, if anything, it will put more of a strain on the relationship. 

I have never been insecure. My theory is that I will trust you until you give me reason not to.

And if you do cheat, well...read my blogs, I will kick your ass to the curb. No second chances, no, I'm sorry baby, boy bye. This is your loss, not mine. Next! But what I refuse to do is to sit around and worry about imaginary stuff. What if he's cheating, What if that girl likes him. I got better things to do with my life.

Get real, believe that you are worthy, and draw your line in the sand in the beginning. Say, "Btw I will not tolerate a lying, cheating man, if you do, then it's over with no second chances," then get on with your relationship.

Stop worrying about it. Don't break up a long friendship because of it. Eventually, they will get sick of your insecurities and will dump your ass and go running back to their friends just like I did. I realized my friends would always be there for me. Just think of how many relationships you've been through with that one friend? Yup, see my point?

So today, my friends, if you're dating someone now and they are insecure, my advice is to run! Run Forrest run!! That is a warning sign of other insecurities to come later, trust me!

Love and trust are what a relationship is based on, and if you don't have that, then just be single and stop ruining others' lives because you are really that insecure.

"Be the change you want to see"

@TreadmillTreats