Would have, could have, should have

Would have, could have, should have

How many times in your life have you said would have, could have, should have? Probably more times than you care to remember, just like the rest of us. But these are the lessons that we hopefully carry with us, so that we make better choices the next time.

Yes, if you're like me, you have made plenty of mistakes, and if you haven't, I almost feel sorry for you because mistakes are learning lessons that we all need in life.

I have made plenty of mistakes. Starting with not going to an away college. I didn't want to leave my mom or friends, so I missed out on the whole dorm, sisterhood sorority thing. I missed out on being on your own, the freshman 20, (okay I don't miss that) and the rest of the college experience. It has been a big regret in my life.

I should have listened to my warning signs. The red flags that were slapping me in the face when I met my ex-husband (ok, ok, and a few other men, I have to admit) in my life. But no, I poo poo them away, I made excuses, and I justified them over and over.

I should have never let my power go. I should have stood up and set ground rules. I should have known my own self-worth and not let anyone tell me any different. 

I should have realized my purpose earlier and wrote this book years ago. While I was at it, I should have socked more money away than I did while waiting for my divorce. 

Would have...could have... should have... It's done. It's over. You did what you knew how to do. One of my favorite quotes is "When you know better, you do better."

I needed to stay home, I needed to learn the lessons of my marriage so that I could write this book and learn that this was my purpose. My purpose is to be able to give women encouragement and faith that they can do it as well. If I didn't go through what I went through, I wouldn't have this testimony.

My red flags: Well, I am a little slow, no excuses there. Sometimes, I don't get it on the first try or the second or third... I am working on that one.

These are all lessons in life. Yes, would it have been nicer not to have to go through all of what we did? Yes! But let's get real, that's not life. So you can either sit around for years beating yourself up or you can learn your lesson and move on!

So today, my friends, remember you can't drive your car looking in the rear view mirror! Put that top down, turn up that music, and check out all the wonderful and incredible views out in front of you! And let go of all your regrets. Weeeeeeee.... 

"Be the change you want to see"

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