Sacrificing your own happiness for another person

Sacrificing your own happiness for another person 

So yesterday I wrote about walking away from an almost perfect relationship because you love that person and you put their needs in front of yours.

Now, don't get this twisted because you know that I walked away from a verbally abusive marriage. I'm not saying you should stay in that type of relationship. 

Yes, I know that in these types of relationships, you lose yourself. You will sacrifice your own happiness to make them happy. You will put them first and do anything to please them. This is a different type of "love." 

This is not love in its purest form. This is a one-sided love. This love comes from fear and from control on their part. You do this because they threaten you, to walk away or to withhold love from you or to take your children. This is a reaction to manipulation. This happens from walking on eggshells every day because you're afraid. 

I am definitely not saying to sacrifice your own happiness in this type of relationship. The love I spoke of yesterday is a two-sided love where both people want the very best for the other. They are both willing to put the others' needs in front of their own. 

Not a love where you get sucked in by their love bombing and then when you're in too deep, it's then that they show you who they truly are.

This is manipulation. This is control, and this is a narcissistic sociopath. Trust me when I tell you this is not real love.

Even though at the moment you may feel like it is.

True love doesn't make you afraid. It doesn't threaten you. It definitely doesn't make you walk on eggshells every day. True love doesn't make you question yourself or question why you can't make this person happy. True love doesn't come with strings or threats. True love is accepting all your faults and working through the tough times together. It's not blaming the other person but stepping back to see if from their point of view. The love I spoke about yesterday is like the love you have for your children, unconditional. You would do anything for their happiness, no strings attached. 

So today, my friends, remember there is a difference between sacrificing your happiness for true love and sacrificing your happiness in order to only make one person happy. In essence, sacrificing your soul. We need to know the difference. We need to see the signs and learn what true love is before you sacrifice your happiness for someone else.

"Be the change you want to see,"

@TreadmillTreats