I refuse to settle

I refuse to settle

After years of doing just that,

I have come to the conclusion that I will no longer settle.

I have come way too far in my life to settle for a man that's not perfect for me. Now wait, before you go off on me, I did not say perfect, I said perfect for me, big difference. 

There is no perfect person and I am as far from perfect as they come, and I admit that all the time. So just so you know, that I am not living in la-la land, I am not asking for anything unreasonable, like he has to be 6', blond, 200 lbs, with muscles, blue eyes, make at least 600,000 a year, drive a 750 BMW and be a Virgo. 

Don't laugh I know some women with this list and they will not bulge (well, good luck to them) No, that is unrealistic, but... there are a few things on my list that are nonnegotiable.

 I will not settle for a man who does not put God first and foremost in his life. I know my religion has saved my life, literally and my faith and my church are the biggest part of my life. I will not sell my soul for a man with money and lose myself, I've been there, done that for 24 years, and that shit will never again. 

I need a man to know this is a package deal, my girls are my best friends and you need to love them just as you love me.

I need a man to embrace my friends and church family as I will never be put in a position to have to choose again 

I will no longer settle for broken, unreliable men. No, I am not here to fix you, you need to work out your issues before you start a relationship.

I took 2 years to work on my issues, I had to own my part in my failed marriage and figured out what I needed to fix. You must have taken this journey by yourself, don't bring your issues into the next relationship, the same problems, the same end result. 

I will not be your mother, I've raised two kids and I am not looking to do that again, be a grown-up, be a real man.

I will not settle for a lying, cheating, or deceitful man. No, I deserve to have a man love me enough and love me completely just as I will do that for him.

I will not settle for a man who will disrespect me. Never again, I now know my self-worth. I am worthy of being treated like the queen I am, just as I would never disrespect you, you will do the same.

I want someone with a kind heart, that is compassionate, that is close to his family and is there for his friends. Someone who knows his finances and at 50 is not living paycheck to paycheck, sorry I did that at 20, and we are definitely not 20 anymore. 

Someone who is funny, (funny is the new sexy for me) who can laugh at themselves and the world, who has your back and will "let you crash their party" like that Luke Byron song. Someone who would drop everything to be with me, that I come second after God, to him.

Someone who cares enough about himself to be in shape and exercises, enjoys the outdoors, who lives life large and knows how to enjoy being in the moment. I want someone who is a blessing to others, who is compassionate and cares about others and the world.

Is this such an unrealistic list, I ask you?

Isn't this what all human beings should be? 

Not looking to get over or hurt someone else? Am I asking for too much?

Doesn't matter, this is my list, make your own... because I refuse to settle.

I know what kind of woman I am, I will love you until the end of time, I will be your biggest cheerleader, I will have your back, I will fight the world for your honor. I will be there to help you, I would even carry you if you fall. I will be your partner 100%, give my all, care about your feelings, respect you, and will always be honest and faithful. 

All I ask is the same in return, that's all and if I can not find someone who is willing to give as much as I am well then I am just fine being by myself because I refuse to settle.

So I am putting it out there, these are the conditions and the deal-breakers, so be it!

So today my friends, think long and hard, and ask yourself are you settling because you're lonely? Are you settling because you can't live without someone in your life? Are you settling for half a man or woman who won't or can't give themselves to you? Take my advice, don't settle, know your worth, and take nothing less!

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