Are you really that insecure?
Are you really that insecure?
That is such a huge question, are you really that insecure? but believe me, there are plenty of people out there that are.
Yes, you know the type, hell you might even be dating or married to the type. The ones who are so insecure that you can't have friends of the opposite sex, some are so insecure they won't even "let" you talk to the opposite sex.
Really? Cause you will jump over the counter and attack the bank teller with a cute smile or let the FedEx man in for a quickie or better yet the friend you have known since you were kids, that lives across the country and has always been there for you through thick and thin. Yes, you might have cybersex with them even though you've slept in the same bed with them a dozen times with not so much as a kiss in thirty years? Oh yeah, that friend...please.
This is all about their insecurities, not yours, this is their problem, so don't make it yours. I had an ex-husband who thought I was screwing everyone, and I am not kidding. Every day he would accuse me of it, as if I had enough time between cleaning his house, cooking his meals, cleaning the yard, the pool, and taking care of his kids and 200 plus animals every day! I hardly had time to take a shower let alone cheat...please, give me a break!
I've lost friendships over this and it has hurt me to the core. One friend that I'd been friends with since we were thirteen, and who was there for me to help me get over my divorce, was always a dear friend to me. He always makes me laugh and I truly enjoy his friendship and I am grateful for it and what he has helped me get through.
He met a girl and I was so happy for him, he's a great guy and she seems like a great girl that makes him happy. I was their biggest cheerleader but she obviously was insecure and didn't like the fact that we were hanging out "before" he met her, so needless to say we are no longer friends and I so miss his friendship.
It sucks! We didn't have a love affair, we were friends and even if we did so frigging what? If you don't trust your partner you have nothing! Look, they can cheat at work, they can cheat anytime or any place with anyone, the point is, if they are going to cheat, then they will.
You being insecure about it is not going to change the situation one bit! No, if anything it will put more of a strain on the relationship. I have never been insecure, my theory is I will trust you until you give me a reason not to. Period.
I am a grown-ass woman who has a life, I don't have the time or energy to worry about what you are doing all day when you're not with me… please.
My thing is if you do cheat, well...read my blogs. I will kick your ass to the curb, no second chances, your loss not mine. Bye.Next.See ya! But I refuse to sit around and worry about imaginary stuff!
Get real people, you need to believe that you are worthy. You need to draw your line in the sand from the beginning saying like I do.
"Btw I will not tolerate a lying, cheating man, if you do, it's over, period. No second chances, no I'm sorry baby, we will be done"
Then get on with your relationship.
Stop worrying about it, but one thing you shouldn't do is break up a long time friendship, because eventually you will get sick of their insecurities and will dump their butt and you will go running back to your friends just like I did. Because I realized my friends will always be there for me. And guess what? 2 years later this is exactly what happened with him.
Just think of how many relationships you've been through with one friend? Yup, see my point?
So today my friends, remember if you're dating someone now and they are insecure, my advice to you is, Run! Run Forrest, run!! That is a warning sign of other insecurities to come, later on, trust me!
Love and trust that is what a relationship is based on, if you don't have that then just be single and enjoy your life but don't put up with people that are really that insecure.
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