Don't try to change people

Don't try to change people 

I am always on here saying don't try to change people. You need to accept them for who they are. I look for the good in people. I look at their hearts to see what kind of people they really are. See, we all have faults. We are all human, after all.

I know better than anyone what it is like to try to be someone else to please another person. You lose yourself, you give pieces of yourself away until there is none left, then you wake up one day not knowing who you are and wondering what happened.

I realized that I also wouldn't want a person to change for me. That if that is who they are, they should continue to be who they are. I would never want someone else to go through what I went through and to feel what I felt.

If you're with someone who wants to change, that's wonderful, but how do you know if they really want to or are they doing it for you? How do you know that later on, they realize they didn't want to do it? Maybe as time goes on, they realize that they just wanted to make you happy, yet now they are miserable because they are not their authentic selves?

So when I am out here in the dating world, I have to figure this out. Can I accept this person? His flaws, his background, and his little quirks? Or do they bother me too much, and I have to walk away. I don't have all the answers. We each walk our own journey and must be true to ourselves. All I know is I have to be me, always. Take me or leave me, that's okay but I am not changing.

Not to say I won't learn things along the way or see things from a different point of view and then make a decision on my own to change. I'm not saying I won't compromise for the person I am with. But to change who I am, no. To try to get someone to love me or like me or to be something I am not. No, that is one lesson I learned, and I don't need a repeat performance. Thank you very much. Just like letting someone change to please me... that's not happening either.

So today my friends remember to be true to you, be your authentic self, never change for someone else, change because you want to be a better person and as I always say be the change "you" want to see. 

"Be the change you want to see"

@Treadmilltreats