Therapy, getting the help you need

Therapy, getting the help you need 

So, I'm usually an incredibly positive person. Nothing gets me down for long.

But recently I've been having some issues. Being in therapy on and off almost my entire life and having my girls in therapy as well has taught me the signs of needing help.

Now look, I get it. Therapy may not be for everyone, and if you have something better that helps you, good for you. But I am a big believer in therapy. You go to an ear doctor when your ear hurts, you go to a heart doctor when you have pains in your chest but when your head is fucked up, all of a sudden, your labeled crazy and you refuse to get it taken care of. I call bullshit! 

I know many of us come from the generation of suck it up, put on your big girl panties, and get on with it.

We didn't tell our problems to strangers. Hell, we never even talked about them.

We didn't have Oprah or Dr. Phil, we just let our pain and our childhood traumas fester inside. We drank, did drugs, and slept with lots of people to try to deal with our pain.

But thank God things have changed. See therapy addresses the issues of why you do the things you do. It teaches you coping mechanisms to not lose your shit on someone. It gives you the tools to move on and become a better, healthier person. 

When I last went to therapy, it was because the last three men I dated said the same thing to and about me, and I had to own the fact that the denominating factor was me! I learned there that I had PTSD from 24 years of my abusive marriage. 

I now realize that I definitely have some triggers from that reality. And that these triggers I am encountering day after day are really affecting me. I am no longer at peace, I am quick to jump off the handle, and I cry a lot. I have been getting headaches, and I no longer have an appetite. These were all the same things I felt when I was married. 

I know I must change my situation and am working to do so but in the meantime I need to get some therapy because God forbid, in case there is next time, I need to know how to handle this issue better.

So today, my friends remember I always say I don't sugar coat shit. I am here to tell you the truth. To put my whole life out here to be able to help others. If I can change, if I can admit I have a problem to the whole world, then you can too, maybe just to yourself and hopefully maybe to a therapist. I will continue to keep you updated on my progress and on the tips that I will be learning. Because you never know who you may uplift with your honesty.

"Be the change you want to see"

@TreadmillTreats