My Top 10 Deal Breakers
My top 10 deal breakers
I have been single since covid and the last time I went on a date was a year ago. I am good with myself and my life now. I would like a man in my life but I will not settle just to have one in my bed.
I remember when I was speaking to my ex fiancee, we were talking about the blog I wrote called "I refuse to settle" He said instead of putting out what I wanted, why didn't I put a list together of the ten deal breakers. These Ten things that would be absolute deal breakers when looking for someone.
He went on to say, all the things I had on my want list, maybe I was too stuck on certain things. What if I met a man that had most and not all, would I disregard him because of it?
If I made a list of the things that were deal breakers and found a man that didn't have any of that list, shouldn't I take a deeper look at that man? I've never really thought of it from that perspective before. So as I always tell you, you're never too old to learn something or to see things in a different light as long as you're open minded.
So here is my list of the ten deal breakers:
1- Must love my girls.
They have make them part of his life as they are part of my life. This is a package deal.
2- He can't lie, period!
Not a small white lie. Not I am doing this for your benefit, lie, No lying period!
3- He can't cheat.
I am committed, and you better be as well. If you still had oats to sow you should have done that before we got together.
4- He cant be cruel or heartless.
That says a lot about a person, how he treats others.
5- He cannot disrespect me.
Ever! Ever! I have come a long way and I refuse to be disrespected. He will never curse or belittle me. As I would never do that to him and expect the same in return.
6- He won't put me last on his list.
Just like I will put him on top of mine, I should be on top of his, behind God.
7- He cant have his life in a mess.
No drama whatsoever and definitely no baby mama drama. I don't come with that mess and I sure as hell don't want any.
8- He can't be unreliable or flaky.
Be a man of your word, if you say it, then do it!
9- He can't be a broke brother.
Sorry I am not asking for a rich man, but at 50 you should have your life together. No bill collectors knocking at your door, or you pawning our rings to pay your gambling debts.
10- He can't be controlling, manipulative, egotistical, or narcissistic, or so into himself that he thinks the world revolves around him.
So these are my deal breakers. Feel free to copy and paste them to your dating sites. For me there is no going back. There are no second chances (especially around cheating. I threw two men into the streets in the middle of the night and never looked back.)
No, that is it, period! I am not looking for things I don't have myself or things I would never do to someone, so why is it so hard to ask the same of another?
So today my friends, as I write my list, I ask you to think about what is on your list. To think if these ten things are non-negotiable for you in your next relationship and then decide to stick to them. There are things on our want list that we can live without but the things on this list are not any of them.
"Be the change you want to see"
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