Are you selfish?

Are you selfish?

This is a very hard question to ask yourself but sometimes we need to ask ourselves these tough questions. These questions make us truly look at ourselves and who we are and who we want to become. I remember when I wrote a blog, I told the world I was a liar while I was married. Everyone said how could you come out and say that? Because we need to own what we do in order to change. The first step in AA is admitting that you have a problem, hello you must own your shit.

So yes, many people are selfish and I will tell you that being selfish will cause you to be proud, it will cause you to be arrogant. You think you don't need anyone or maybe you think you are better than everyone else. You have a don't tell me what to do, I got this mentality. You have a who are you to tell me what to do attitude.

Maybe you like my ex-husband and will even put his pettiness about me over the welfare of his child. Making her pick between the two of us in her most vulnerable state of being sick and in the hospital.
See that kind of selfishness is all-consuming, it will blind you and hurt others. He was blind to what he was putting her through because his pettiness and hatred for me overwhelmed him and his senses.

Selfishness will eat away at your life, it will destroy your home. When all you think is about yourself, your financial outcome, and your health, when it's all about you..you..you. It's all about you, what you want, and what you need when you want it. You don't even think of others' feelings, they are an afterthought if even a thought at all in your mind.

I am always real in this blog and I tell you all the time I use to pick losers and my ex-boyfriend was a loser. He only cared about himself, and his needs. He never took into consideration my feelings, when he didn't call or text me, when he would disappear, when he wasn't there for me, because it was all about him. (Wait that sounds like a lot of my ex-boyfriends, thank God I've learned)

People like that think that they are owed, it's supposed to come to them because they have a "Don't you know who I am" way about them. But the world does not revolve around you, life is about giving back, it's about helping someone in need.

Life is about community, it's about loving thy neighbor, and lending a hand to someone who needs it.

That saying is true...
It's better to give than to receive.
Nothing warms my heart more than being able to help someone out. It doesn't have to be big or be a material gesture, it can be a phone call, it can be let me help you with that. It can be hey, I have an extra one of this or that, and I know you need it, so here it is. It is about thinking and putting someone else's feelings before your own. Thinking if I did this how would they feel? If I said this how would it affect them? Always thinking one step ahead of others' feelings. I am always helping my ex-mother-in-law out and people ask me all the time why I do it? Because I think that if it was my mother and she was alone and disabled, I would hope someone would help her.

I remember years ago while speaking to my high school sweetheart little sister I said "Even if I can't be with your brother, all I want for him is to be happy, his happiness means the world to me"
She stopped and looked at me and said with tears in her eyes "That is the truest form of true love, when you want someone else happiness over your own, there is no doubt that you love my brother" I wanted and still want his happiness, even if that happiness is not with me, it doesn't matter.

It's hard to do this, we are born into a society that is all about ourselves, especially this generation. What if I don't have if I give it away and then there be none for me, the world we live in. But we must remember that is not our best self, that is not who we were called to be.

Let me leave you with this thought...when do you see the best in people? Seriously think about this question...

You see the best in people when there is devastation, a hurricane, wildfire, or earthquake maybe the best example of this is 911. People from all over the world, every color, and every religion came together to help out people in need. My New Yorkers showed their true colors and showed up and out. Why must we wait for a tragedy? Why must something bad bring out the good in us? Why can't we do this all the time?

So today my friends, remember it's not all about you, you need to take a long hard look in the mirror and ask yourself are you selfish? And what are you going to do to change it?
And like I always say at the end of every blog...

"Be the change you want to see"
 
"And just when the caterpillar thought his life over...he turned into a beautiful butterfly"

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