The warning signs of a con man

The warning signs of a con man

So recently, I wrote about catfish on dating sites. Now I am here to tell you the signs of a Con man, and believe me, there are signs. And if you open your eyes, you will be able to see them miles away.

Yes, ladies, there are Con men out there, waiting and preying on women.

You might say, not me, I am way too smart to fall for a Con man. But not so, it's not about how smart you are. It's about how much smarter he is.

I consider myself a smart, street wise woman. I don't believe a guy with a line, a get rich quick scheme, or will I ever part with my hard earned money, yet I got taken in by a con man. Just as many of these wonderful, smart, beautiful women that I have met on this journey after meeting this Con man.

Oh yes, this one had conned 6 women so far that we know of. I know there were many more out there that we don't know about. I know there were 6 because they reached out to me.

See for a Con man, this is his life. He gets a thrill, a high from hurting unsuspecting women. Con men are sociopathic liars, this is what they do, and they have no remorse whatsoever. In fact, they try to blame it on everyone else, never taking responsibility for their own actions. 

Let me tell you, these women are all educated, have good jobs, are smart, beautiful, and kind. So you ask, then how could they possibly get conned? Because he listens. We talk a lot, ladies. Yes, we are open books. He listened when you said you were in a physically abusive marriage, a verbally abusive marriage, that you had a horrible childhood. He listened when you said that you're looking for a father figure, that you never felt loved, that your self-esteem is low.

He then takes all the facts he gathered and then uses them. He will tell you that you are beautiful. He will say he never met anyone like you. He will say he is going to step up because none of the other men in your life have. He will do romantic things and sweet gestures. He will charm your children and find out what they are into. He will weasel his way to your heart through them.

He will find out what you like to do and research it so he can say he also likes that. You will be thinking, oh my God, he's perfect. How lucky am I? Just then, he will tell you he's never felt like this and that he's falling in love with you. He will tell you that he's never met a woman like you.

Yes, do you see that red flag? Yes, you do, but you're running past it so fast, you say, nah, that really wasn't a red flag. Then he will reel you in with a sob story about his horrible childhood and his past relationships.  

How he was so hurt by a woman, usually his wife, and how he stayed because he loved his child. 

Now, you being the kind nurturer that you are, you're being sucked in. We all want to fix that man. We all want to show him what a great woman we are. So we start to do things back, romantic dinners, we buy gifts, and we open our hearts a little more.

He then will buy you gifts, make dinner for you. He will bring flowers, he will wash dishes, do things around your house and just when you think it could not get any better. He will then tell you that you are the woman of his dreams, that he never wants to spend another night without you. He will say that yes, he knows it's quick, but he wants to marry you. He may even give you a ring. He'll show it to your friends, your kids, and your family he will have sucked all of them into his plan.

At this point, your first thought will be that this is going way too fast. Something is not feeling right in the pit of your stomach, but you will justify this as well.

He will see your hesitation and he will sweet talk you some more. He will tell you things you've longed to hear, things you may have never heard before. He knows you're a goner. He knows you're in love with him, and he knows that he is as good as in.

So against your better judgment, against the red flags smacking you in the face, you will let your heart overrule your head. You say yes, you move him in. You help him out when he tells you he's in a bind. You may even give him money. You believe all that he tells you that no one gives him a chance. He's trying to be a better man, but everyone is out for him. Now you're in defense mode. Oh no, you didn't just talk about my man!

I was lucky, I didn't move him in. I didn't give him money. He knew I wasn't dating a broke brother since he knew me since we were kids, so his game was different with me but still trying to work towards his end result.

I was just blessed to have divine intervention to find out what he was doing. He was doing this to not only me but 5 other women as well, the same lines, down to his priest blessed this cross for you, 

Yes, since then, while I have been speaking about domestic abuse, I have met these other women. I have to tell you, I like them, he at least had great taste in women. It's a shame for him because these are some wonderful women who loved him, but he has taught each and every one of us a lesson. This is a lesson that I will keep sharing with all of you, as I never want anyone to fall prey to this type of man.

We learned that when something doesn't feel right, it's not. We learned to know when something seems too good to be true, it usually is. We learned that we weren't stupid, we were kind, loving, and we believe the best in people. This is his job and he is really good at it. 

So today, my friends, take heed, and listen to your inner voice. Listen to what others have said and went through. Always know your own worth, and then you will never need to get it from someone else and fall victim. Remember, there are Con men out there waiting to prey on you. Don't be another victim.

"Be the change you want to see"

@TreadmillTreats