Finding your courage yet again

Finding your courage yet again.

There have been many changes in my life in the last six years, it seems to be incredible that so many changes could happen to a person who used to be so afraid of change.

Yes, I was afraid, I hated change. I stood in a loveless, miserable marriage for way too many years because I was afraid. Fear kept me stuck, fear ruled my life and made me unhappy.

Yet here I am stronger because of all of that. Yes, all of the pain, all of the fear gave me strength. It gave me a testimony that I have today and I am so grateful that my life has been so shooked up because it made me realize that I can do anything.

Yes, you read that right, I am thankful for all the pain, for all the knock downs, for all the times I laid on the floor and cried out for help. Yes, for all of that, I am grateful for.

Some of you that have read my book reached out to me and asked "how did you get through so many horrible things happen to you over and over again?" I tell them that even when I didn't think I could get through, yet again, somehow I did. Somehow I held on to that tiny bit of faith, that hope that one day I would have the life I truly wanted and that got me through my darkest nights.

Here's the thing, yes, I was a strong woman at one point. Yes, I survived a rape, an abortion, an attempt suicide, drug and alcohol addiction, many deaths and losses and friends that turned their backs on me.I got through all of that to then somehow give away all of my strength and power to one person and lose myself, how does that happen?

How can a smart, strong women let that happen? It can happen to anyone, no matter what your age is, what your race is, economic background or education level is, it can happen to you.

So yes, it can happen, you can end up at the bottom and sometimes you have to build yourself and your life over again and again, but that doesn't mean your life is over, not by a long shot. Yes, I lost my voice, I lost my courage, I believed all he said. He said that I was weak, that I was stupid, that I couldn't have done it without him, that I will never be able to do it. I was afraid, I didn't think I could do it, I had heard his words for so many years that I believed them, I became them. I was stuck, like many of you reading this.

How many of you are still replaying the words your parents spoke about you? Your family, even your spouse? How many of you feel their words shaped your life? "Well they said I was stupid, worthless so I am...

I can never make it...I will never become a doctor or lawyer. They are right who I am kidding, who do I think I am?"

Their voices, their put downs have influenced your life, your decisions, it made you who you are today.

But all of that, all of the voices in your head, all of your fears that tell you that you are worthless, are finished, when you decide to change your life. So here are some steps for you to change your life and pull yourself up yet again.

1- Believe in a higher power.

Doesn't matter which "one" just find the one that you can believe in.

2- Love yourself.

Sounds simple but it's not when your still hearing others voices.

3- Stop listening to the voices.

Even your own, that says I can't…I'm afraid, it will never happen.

4- Believe anything is possible.

Doesn't matter how big the dream is, just believe.

5- Envision your life as you want it.

Dream about it, see it as if it has already happened.

6- Don't let a knock down, knock you out. 

The fight is never over, you can come back stronger and win!

7- Have a positive attitude.

 Never say never, never say I can't.

8- Let go of some people.

Not everyone is rowing your boat, some people are drilling holes and you need to dump them.

9- Let go of hatred and anger. 

You need to forgive...not for them but for you, so you can move on.

10- Dream big.

Even if you can't imagine how it will happen, you only need to see the big picture...you only need to be positive, to believe, to imagine, the rest will come.

So today my friends, change is just one thought away, one second for you to decide no matter how many knockdowns I had, I am going to win. No matter how battered or bruised I may be, I am going to overcome it, even if no one else believes in me, I will.

I will dream big and know that I will achieve all that I put my mind to no matter how many obstacles come my way...

I can and will do this!

"Be the change you want to see"

 

"And just when the caterpillar thought his life over...he turned into a beautiful butterfly"

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