Only you can change you

Only you can change you

Yesterday I wrote about New Year's resolutions and the fact that I no longer do them. I do lifestyle resolutions, things I want to change about me and my life.

I don't do diets, ever, because that means you are doing something different for an amount of time, period and I want to do something for a lifetime, not just a specific amount of time. I just don't exercise until I hit a goal, I exercise each and every day because this is who I am and what I do.

I don't do anything half assed, not my health, my relationships or my friendships, I am all in with both feet.

So when this year came to an end, I realized that I wanted to start a new decade with a different outlook. My "New Year's resolutions/ Life resolution" was to be happy. I want to be happy, this is my life and I may have another 30 years or I may have another 30 minutes but whatever time I am here I will do me, I will do what makes me happy.

And what makes me happy is taking care of me, physically, mentally and spiritually. For so many years I put everyone in front of me, everyone's happiness, their wellbeing came before mine and since this is a new decade and my girls are grown I can do this now, I can focus on me. If I realized this earlier I would have done it years ago, but I will write about that and what us mother's and wife's sacrifice in another blog.

I decided last year to go back to therapy as I needed to change some things about myself. I wanted to figure out why I do the things I do with men, I wanted to make sure I didn't keep repeating the same mistakes I had in the past.I learned I suffer with PTSD, who knew? I never knew I could have this, so I am working on this, my self esteem issues and my men issues in order to become a better person.

I also decided in this new decade I am going to start my morning doing the first 15. The first 15, if you don't know what that is, it's about giving your first 15 minutes to God. Now I always start my day as soon as I opened my eyes, giving thanks to God for giving me another day. But I am adding in 5 minutes to write and 5 minutes to read the word. My first 15 minutes is dedicated to God and well as they should be.

I also decided that this year like the last 8 years since I've attended The Faith Center, I will be doing the Daniel fast but I will continue it for 6 weeks. My little one is a vegan and I want to see how eating like a veterinarian is going to affect my mind and body. I am a meat eater, always have been but I have been watching a lot of documentaries about plant based diets and I want to give it a shot.

I also want to meditate and start yoga again at least 3 days a week to start with as I want my mind to be in sync with my body. 

I am always saying be the change you want to see and I don't want to be the one that says do what I say and not what I do, I want to live what I preach and lately I haven't felt in sync with my life or my body. Not that I don't go to the gym but I've been slacking during the holidays and also working a lot and not getting to church which I know I need like breathing, all of this has made me feel out of sorts with myself.

So I know I must change all of this and if this is the change I want to see, it starts with me….changing.

I know it's hard, so many people make New Year's resolutions and then let them go to the wayside. Trust me I see this every New Year's at the gym, it's packed the first 2 weeks of the year but by mid February it's just us die hard there again.

This has to be a lifestyle change, this has to be something you are committed to doing for a long time because there is no short term fix, you didn't gain that weight over night, you didn't get that bad habit overnight and your sure as hell not getting rid of it overnight. 

I know this and I also know that I am not perfect, I freely admit that all the time in my blogs so I will write about this new journey and my feelings about it in upcoming blogs.

So today my friends remember, this is not just a New Year but a new decade as well, and it can be a new you if you truly want to change. I know many people, including my ex husband used to say a leopard can't change it's spots and maybe that's true but we are not leopards, we are human and we can change anything we set our minds to. To quit drugs, to quit drinking, to quit self destructive behavior, to lose weight, to let go of hatred and bitterness, to forgive, to become the best versions of ourselves, it is all up to us.

So like I say at the end of every blog….

"Be the change you want to see"

 

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