You can't save someone who isn't willing to participate in their own rescue

You can't save someone who isn't willing to participate in their own rescue

Me and my girlfriend and I always joke about her being Captain Save a Hoe. She used to always try to save people from themselves. Here's the thing, you can't save anyone who's not willing to be saved. You can't help an alcoholic to stop drinking. You can't help an addict from using, and you can't help save someone from themselves. They have to want to change. They have to be willing to admit they have a problem. They have to do it for themselves and not for anyone else. 

Yes, you can give advice, but then you must step back and let them get their pain. It is only then and sometimes not even then that they may learn the lessons they need to learn. I know many people who are in the second half of their lives and still haven't learned. Doing the same mistakes over and over. 

Never dealing with childhood traumas. Dating the same type of abusive men, still drinking and getting DUIs at this stage of the game. You can't save them because they don't want to change. I say this all the time when you're sick and tired of being sick and tired, you will do something about it. You will finally leave that relationship,or quit that job you hate or stop drinking or drugging, but you need to be at that point where you want and need to change. 

So today, my friends remember you can't save someone who isn't willing to participate in their own rescue. They may never be ready or willing to change, and this is not your burden, this is theirs. And as I say at the end of every blog, only you can be the change you want to see. 

@TreadmillTreats