You cannot change what you refuse to address

You cannot change what you refuse to address

That is the problem with so many people today, they refuse to admit they have a problem. As if doing so will make you less than, so they never address it and hey, if you don't address it, it doesn't exist.

This is first thing they teach you in AA, the first step is admitting you have a problem. You cannot get help for anything unless you first admit you have an issue.

If you want to change, you cannot ask a person to take you somewhere they have never been themselves. You have to find others who have been there, gone through it and came out on the other side. You need someone who gets you and what your going through.

Another big barrier will be that others won't be happy about your change. They see you changing and they become afraid, they know your not staying in this space with them for long, so instead they try to tear you down.
They tell you you cant make it, that you think your better than everyone else, they will make you question yourself and your self worth. They may even have you questioing your change but you can't let them do this.

People may call you arrogant, why because you didnt ask for their permission to move on? To dream big? 
Tell me why should I my shut down my confidence for your insecurity?

If a man is afraid of a strong women, he is not a strong man. If someone wants you to dumb yourself down, its because they are afraid of your intelligence.
They see all the places you are going to and they know that is not their path, so they try to sabotage yours.

What I've learned on this faith walk is that I refuse to be a second class copy of someone else. I know there is no one like me, I am a original!

I tell my girls all the time, dance to the beat of your own drummer. I embodied that for so long and then I gave my power away to a man who I loved.
I let him tell me what my value was, I believed him when he said I was useless, that I wasn't worthy.

It took me a long, long time to get back that worth, to know who I am!
I know my own worth again, it took a long time to own that, to be able to stand tall with that knowledge. But even still I on shaky ground when it comes to men and my worth. So I must work on that issue and work on myself, we all need to constantly work on ourselves so that we don't slip back into old patterns.

Are you with people that push people down? It's so their light will shine brighter.
That they are so insecure and they want to be on center stage all the time.
You need to cut ties, change patterns,walk away from what no longer suits you. This is your life and you get one chance, do it your way.
Change what is not working, start something new, admit that you have a problem, whatever that problem may be and get help.
Why be a spectator in life when you can be a participant but first you must know that you cannot change what you refuse to address.

"Be the change you want to see"
 
"And just when the caterpillar thought his life over...he turned into a beautiful butterfly"

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