It's time to change yourself

It's time to change yourself

There are times in your life when you need to make a change. There are times when the things you've been doing just aren't working anymore. Einstein said the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting different results but that's what we do all the time.

I know this for a fact and I raise my hand. I have picked the same type of men over and over, narrostic, controlling, selfish men. I stay in relationships I know should have ended a long time ago but yet I give them chance after chance. I'm a born pleaser, I want to please people. I want to make people happy so I will go to extreme measures to try to do this even at the expense of my own happiness.

But there comes a time in your life when enough is enough, in fact I wrote about that, this very week. When you have to decide to put yourself first, when you don't care if you're alone. When you come to the decision that your not going to put up with another bullshit relationship again.

We all need time to regroup, to look at what we're doing. To say "I need to figure out what I'm doing wrong and learn how to change it"

They say hurt people, hurt people and it's true, if you're not healed, you will hurt other people. I can't tell you how many broken men I thought I could fix but I've realize that you can only fix yourself. They need to fix themselves, you cannot do it for them, you cannot pray it away, you cannot wish it away, it has to be their decision. The biggest thing AA taught me was you must first admit you have a problem before you can fix it.

So I decided that I have a problem, I am owning it and I need to fix it. I need time to heal, to learn who I am and what I need. I need to concentrate on me for a while.

I remember when I first got divorced and I got involved with Mr. Con artist, after I found out what he did to me, I checked out of the dating scene and into myself for a year. I needed that time for myself, to heal and to let go of the hurt and anger I was holding on to from him.

I wrote my book, I exercised, I meditated, I prayed a lot... a lot.
But I healed myself and came out a better person.
Some of you might be like me, hardheaded and you might have to learn the lessons a few times before we get it. Some of us may not chose to see the warning signs or poo poo them away. You may not hear the whisper, you may not hear the yell, you may not feel the pebble or brick God or the universe throws at us, it takes the whole dam wall to fall on us to get our attention.
Just plain hardheaded!

But eventually we get it, after we are under the rubble, banged up and bruised, we finally get it. That's the point I am at now.
So this women who hated change so many years ago is going to change yet again.
I have stopped dating, I have gotten into yoga again to center myself and be one with my own thoughts and the messages God has for me.
I will be changing my diet to cleanse me out from the inside out.
I will be spending more time on my business and my purpose. See being single gives you the time to do all of this.
You get to work on yourself, no guilt, no I'm sorrys just plain indulgent time with yourself.

Don't be afraid,  being alone is not that bad. I have my family, my friends, my church, the things I love to do, like exercise, yoga, bike riding, long walks on the beach and time alone with God.
Trust me you will find things to change you into the best you, you can be, if you try.

So today my friends, it's time to make a change. Change that job you hate, walk away from the relationship that's not working, let go of negative people in your life that are keeping you down.
Reinvent yourself, your never too old, it's never too late, do it now!
It's time to change yourself.

"Be the change you want to see"
 
"And just when the caterpillar thought his life over...he turned into a beautiful butterfly"

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