What does love look like?

What does love look like?

It's funny we go through life looking for someone to share life's adventures with, yet we have so many expectations, so many things we want or don't want.

We want someone tall, dark and handsome, someone will a great job, lots of money, prestige. We all have our lists of what we think we want and some people are so stuck on these list that they won't entertain anything less.

I have friends who will pass up good men because of their career, race, height, or a number of other stupid reasons, seriously...
I know I was so caught up in my own box for years, unless you were tall, dark and Italian, you were out.
When I got divorced I was stepping out of my box on so many levels, I decided to step out of it in dating as well.

I no longer cared if you were rich, as I had been there and knew first hand money didn't buy you happiness. I didn't care about your career or if you were Italian.
Okay, I did care how tall you were as my ex had a thing about my wearing heels and being taller than him. This was something I loved and missed but as long as you were taller than me, 5'3, which most men are, it was all good!

I threw out all of that, I stepped out of box. I dated younger men, I dated black men and Spanish men. I dated men I would have never gave a second look to because now I was looking into a man's soul, not just at the outside package.

I've learned that you can just as easily fall in love with a businessman as you can with a lead singer with dreads. You can have an amazing relationship with someone your age or someone 20 years younger.

You can connect on a different level with gym rat as you can a nerd that you would never think was your type. All because you opened your mind, you let your soul pick and not your mind or society, that says they are too young, too old, too poor, a different color or nationality.

This is your life dam it! Live it your way, do you, follow your heart, pick from your soul.

Look at our celebrities, they don't give a fuck, they will date someone 30 years younger.
Look at Tina Turner, Madona or Cher or men marrying women 25 years younger. They date people and we are shaking our heads, Beyonce and Jay-Z, Angelina Jolie and Billy Bob, we all thought, Wtf Was she thinking? She's so beautiful and yuggg he's nothing to look at. But there she was with vial of his blood around her neck, now that was some connection.

There are many more celebrities that we think that about, why would she date him or why would he date her? They could get so much better but you don't know. You don't know if their souls connected, if they laugh together for hours, if he treats her like no one has ever did before. If she's makes him feel like a king or he's makes her feel like a queen. It doesn't matter the age, color, background or looks, it's about that connection and who are we to judge?

Look, in this world it's hard enough to meet someone, let alone meet someone who we connect with. Someone who we honestly like and want to spend our lives with, why put ourselves into a box?
Why put so many restrictions on love? Why rule out someone based on age, race, religion or what we have in our minds that is perfect. We are all are not perfect, hell I raise my hand to this all the time!

So why than, are you looking for perfection? You can be overlooking the best man or woman in your life, while your stuck in your tiny box.

So today my friends remember, step out of your box, let go of your preconceived notions, kick your list to the curb and just go with the flow. Entertain someone you would never would, give a chance to someone you would never look at before. You never know if this may be the one, the one that makes your heart beater faster than you ever felt, you never know what love looks like.

"Be the change you want to see"
 
"And just when the caterpillar thought his life over...he turned into a beautiful butterfly"

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