We all mess up, learn to forgive

We all mess up, learn to forgive

Yesterday as I was talking with my girls I was telling them that I had forgiving a friend that deeply hurt me.
He reached out after a year and apologized. Since forgiveness has been coming up a lot lately especially with the return of my rapist reaching out to me, I have had a lot of time to reflect on forgiveness.

I was teaching them that everyone make mistakes but he owned his. He called trying to make amends and said he missed our friendship.

One of my favorite bible verses is "He who has no sin, cast the first stone"
Do I have no sin? Have I not hurt someone I love? Have I not screwed up some way or another? Of course I have and have others forgiven me? Yes, more than I deserved.

Years ago when I was first with their dad and madly in love with him, he made me choose between him and my two and only friends, I had when I moved here.

One of them I had been best friends with since I was 12 years old. He said it was him or them. I had just moved to Florida to be with him, I sold my business and rented my home out, hell I even gave my dog away.
But I loved him and didn't want to lose him, so I cut off my friends just like that. I didn't speak to them for years.

Years later when I realized what I did and needed to say how sorry I was, I reached out to them. They had every reason to tell me to go to hell but they didn't, they forgave me. They forgave the unforgivable, when they didn't have to, as I had no right to be forgiven. But they did, so who am I to hold forgiveness from someone who is asking for it? I am not judge and jury, I am not God, it is not my job to judge.

Some times you need to forgive and walk away. Forgiveness is not about letting someone hurt you over and over. It's either about forgiving and putting what they did in the past and moving on or it's about forgiving and walking away for your health.

I chose to forgive him and keep him in my life because he was always a great friend, he was always there for me. I know he has a good heart but he made a mistake, like we all do.

My rapist on the other hand I forgive but I walked away. There is no reason for me to keep him in my life.
These are decisions you need to make and you will know what feels right in your heart with each case.

I don't want to hold on to hatred and anger against a person. I don't want be a angry, bitter person letting hatred poison my life.
And so I choose...I choose to forgive....I choose to move on...I choose to be happy and live in peace.

So today my friends, the choice is up to you, you get to choose, choose wisely.

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